In analyzing my game I've come to realize that my approach issues are less about approach anxiety and more about getting up for the approach. I've approached all sorts of women and easily engage in conversation. However many times I find that i just dont feel like making the effort. I see a hot girl or group of girls, i think about the approach, but the energy isnt there and I just tell myself why bother? When I'm in a club I do great but i find the music and SPAM gets me in that energetic mood and approach comes easy. So the question is, when I am not in a club environment...like a bookstore or shopping mall, what ideas can I use to psych myself up, what can i do to get myself to WANT to approach?

do you want to get laid?

obviously yes. Thats part of the problem. I think i tend to assess the possible outcomes so that in a club SPAM I know it can escalate quickly where in a day game situation when I don't see it escalating that quick i tend to not engage.

then think of approaching in those situations more in terms of long-term benefits, like you're planting seeds to reap the fruits later

one of the big reasons a lot of people fail in any field is because they're always thinking in terms of immediate gratification rather than long term benefit

Or you could think of it in another perspective: " What chances do I have to fuck this girl if I don't go talk to her? "

You can also try NLP anchoring to change your state of emotion. I've had mild sucess with that (I hear it takes practice and gets stronger as you use it).

Respect for that.

Reminds me of a bit of one of DavidD's anecdote in DYD advanced series I belive. He basicaly talks about a studdy that was done on todlers. Kids where given a candy and told that they could eat it right away, or if they waited x hrs before eating it, then they would get another then. About 60% of the kids resisted the temptation most of them by doing things that distracted them from the candy (closing their eyes, playing, etc...). The interesting part is that they re-analyzed the same kids 20 years later and found out that the kids that where able to delay gratification where a lot more sucessfull and complete individuals then those that coudn't.

So learn to delay gratification.

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Whenever I browse these forums, I get crazy psyched for a few hours. It gives me a shit ton of confident.. Don't know why.