| Have you tried online sarging on an online dating site? Lots of people are abandoning myspace. This is the formula that works for me:
Send a paragraph message, mention something that shows you read the profile and might have similar interests, or better yet why this one girl stuck out to you. The more esoteric, the better. Ask an interesting question or two that she usually doesn't get. Make sure the girl knows you stopped by to chat, not just to drop her a compliment. Do this by ending the message with 'talk to me' if you have to. If no response after a few days, shoot her a playful one line message calling her out. This works about 50% of the time. Chat and fluff for a little bit and when it seems like things are comfortable enough (3-10 messages depending on the girl's confidence and interest), suggest meeting offline. You can even hail mary this if you've built enough comfort and she stops responding. Contrary to popular belief, you do not have to get a phone number or IM before this point, though they help. Some girls just prefer not to give out a number, but are comfortable meeting during the day in public.
It's freaking hard to build attraction over a computer screen, girls know this, they are eager to see how things will be in real life. If you're building attraction somehow, good for you, but it's better to do it in the real world. If a girl won't agree to meet you or give you her number, but keeps messaging, keep trying (tactfully). Use your judgment, if she seems like she's a shut in or just stringing you along, write her off. You should NEVER, NEVER, have to talk to someone for a month just to meet them, that makes for a lot of pressure. That girl's wasting your time and valuable effort.
Seriously, this shit becomes second nature after you've had a few months practice. How important is a profile? Shit if I know. Probably the most important thing is a profile that shows you're a real guy and not some rapist, sex fiend, or boring asshole. I think nothing is more important than how you handle IM and messages, but I have an awesome profile so maybe I don't know. One thing, less is more, make your profile vague, but interesting. If she wants to know shit about you, she'll ask and it'll give her something to talk about.
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