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I'm currently doing my final year of highschool, and because of this, a lot of my game takes place at 18th birthdays or house parties, i'm just curious as to whether time constraints are really essential in this kind of environment?
I don't tend to use them, and i want to know if this is impacting on my game.
anyone else's experiences would be great.
gonzo.
Well i would say that it dependes on the situation and you have to adapt what ever happens around you. I wouldnt say that time constraints is something you have to say EVERY time you open a set but i would highly recommend it. This is why i think that its good to use it when ever possible:
1. The time constraint brings kind of spontanious feeling into the conversation that you just " happened to bump into these girls ".
2. Also the girls are more relaxed because they know now that you are only going to disturb them just a few minutes ( so the set doesent start wondering how long are you going to stand there and it avoids some awkwardnes ).
Like i said, you have to observe the situation and then make a quick decision regarding the " time constraints ". I can give you one example from yesterday when i was in the club with my friends and i DIDNT use time constraint but still managed to pull it through and received two numbers from the HB sisters.
Example 1:
So i was standing and talking with my friends in this balcony where you could see straight to the dance floor. Next to us was this 4 HB set but i wasn´t sure if they had noticed me or my friends so i had to make a decision whether use a time constraint or not.
I tought it would just sound stupit to walk next to them and say " hey, i need a quick opinion on something but then i have to go back to my friends " when my friends were standing next to me... After a quick call i made my move and just opened that " hey girls, my friend here has a problem and we need women perspect on this ( My wingman has a GF so i wasnt killing his chances ) " and just opened with the "jealous GF opener ". It worked for me without saying the time limit but i would still recommend it when possible.
[ Johnny B ]