So, there I was standing in line at a bus station, and also in line was a beautiful girl. I was looking at her, and her eyes caught mine, so I flashed her a smile... she returned it warmly. Yet I didn't approach her, just stood like a fool in line. We had exchanged a few more smiles and I thought to myself, "screw this, once we get on the bus, I'm sitting beside her and I'm going to talk to her for the whole trip. (I suppose I should point out that I'm pretty much 100% new to talking to people randomly, and this is only the beginning of my PUA journey) So, a few minutes later, people are loading up onto the bus, and I get on and spot her seat, and she has placed her belongings on the seat next to her. I would have asked her if I could join her, but she had her headphones on, pretty much drowning out distraction, so I sat elsewhere. After the bus had reached its destination, I didn't see where she had went to caught up with her, and I didn't want to go looking for her or anything, especially with how much time had passed since our first eye-contact... I would probably come off as creepy.

I'm pretty much 100% sure I could have got my first number-close, if I wasn't so weighed down with approach anxiety.

Despite my fail with this girl, I still feel that the lessons learned regarding just going with your gut and talking to someone, rather than letting the moment just pass by, has put me ahead of where I was before. So, overall, I feel successful just because I learned something, and I'll likely not let it happen again.

Cheers,

-Stellar

Ouch, man it sucks when that happens, but it happens to everyone so dont sweat it.

Getting over AA isnt easy, but once you do you wont be able to imagine what it was like before you got over it.

Just start making conversation and small talk with everyone, and i dont just mean people that serve you in shops or friends etc, i mean literally everyone, so say hi to everyone you walk past, and if your waiting in a queue say something to the person in front or behind, so you get used to talking to people.

Hope it helps

Im goin to help you here ; Motivational quote keep trying you may fail , but never give up trying.
Now if u fail hey its just an outcome u can change ; heres how to change ure menatility imagine on top of the world , how does that feel? now picture ureself like ure the shyt and untochable and u could care less
If u dnt knoe wat to say just do An AFC approach hi im not soo good with strangers but theres something about u so i wanted to meet u ( She may find tht cute)
Just remember this as far as we know you may or may not live again so experience all the good feelings and everything u want now when u want something u go get it women are like a baskteball you gotta go after it u get it u score and keep scoring until u make the game winner or buzzer beater , now tht may sound like a total different methaphor but if u analyze it from a different prospective it is correct
So keep trying

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Difficulties are things that show a person what they are.” Epictetus

Yeah,
I typically have a pretty awesome outlook on everything. I'm not so much saying I'm a failure, just that the one potential meeting didn't quite go as it could easily have gone. I'm not letting it hold me back or get me down, in fact, it has inspired me to not let any delay happen when I feel I should talk to someone.

my philosophy: if you make an ass out of yourself, youre never going to meet those people ever again anyways.

Wouldn't let it get ya down bud, been in that situation many a times and felt stupid afterwards. Its all a matter of time and practice. If your timid about goin up to 9's and 10's, start out ur day talkin to 7's and 8's. Chattin them up will get you in a talkative mood and best part is that they will usually give u conversation topics to use on the next girl. I find that the more you talkin in a day the easier it becomes to chat people up.

Capps, I like your attitude and suggestion ... I agree, I would work it slowly, personally I would start with people in generally learn how to talk to random people guys, gurls, just learn how to generate a convo with random people ... next I would move up the later and try to talk to girl just any girls and try to see how far you can go ... doing this will help with AA, also, I learned getting a job in customer service, which forces you to get over AA is other idea ... make money while learn how to deal with AA, its just wonderful!

for real. strike up random conversations about out-there shit on the street with random people. it's a great way to hone opening skills and try new ways to dig out of the awkward zone.

my favorite one thus far, and I think i'm going to turn it in to an opener:

"hey, don't you think michael phelps should get an -extra- medal for being high during the olympics? i've smoked my fair share, and the last thing I wanted to do was swim really fast."