Oh Starbuck...wise words indeed...I totally hear all you say and am inclined to agree with it..but I have to stick my girly neck out and say my side (I'd say 'our' side but not sure I can speak for all womankind!). Thank you for mentioning me as an exception, I appreciate it.
The last line though, from the song... I can't accept that simply all pretty women are fundamentally trouble and not ones you should marry (if one wanted to get married I mean). You can have nightmare, hardcore, demanding women who may be uggers (ugly!). I see them in supermarkets here arguing with their fellas with a mouth like a cesspit. I hear them swearing and complaining with kids in tow and men walking around looking like they've given up or being insulting back...very depressing, but all show me the kind of woman and maybe even one day wife, I never want to be. And these women are not HBs!
Jeezu, I just read the full lyrics to that song and it's bloody awful! lmao!
http://www.lyricsdownload.com/jimmy-sou ... yrics.html
That could be one of the worst songs I have ever read in my life lol! I can't stop laughing
To me, there seems to be high maintenance and low maintenance women and you can have somewhere inbetween (I'm calling it 'Middle Maintenance' which I think would be where me and my friends fit in). I'm not fully convinced that many women are actually low maintenance, and if they are...are they stimulating or challenging enough to want to keep them?! lol
I agree that it used to be easier..when i was in my teens and early twenties it was so easy to meet guys...now it's not like that at all, along with my age comes everyone being partnered up, or got baggage (emotional or relationship/kids etc) or they're just not skilled enough in PU. Give me a man who can stimulate me, excite me, make me laugh and yes, looks good (as in, looks after himself whether he is fit or not so...I still prefer the not so) and I will feel like I met someone interesting and different and want to see him again.
And Starbuck, as you say, neither gender is perfect...no way. What a boring as sh*t world it would be if we were...I don't hide my imperfections though, they come out as soon as someone meets me, so those who hide them are not all of us...we're not all out to deceive!
It sounds like women hide their flaws in order to'capture' a husband! How hideous! I'm not on a hunt for a husband, and again, I don't know anyone who thinks that way....that they must meet man to marry.
I hear in New York that the dating scene is pretty aggressive, sounds horrible to me-people on the hunt in a demanding and impatient SPAM where end goals are all that's on the agenda. I don't see dating that way at all. Instead of looking for husband, you should just be open to meeting someone who will make you feel good and vice versa for the foreseeable future.
I have to pick up on the 'love' and 'commitment' thing you said...I so don't agree with you on that (sorry about this!), but I learnt a long time ago not to tell a guy you love him first.
Here's how;
After 4 months being together with boyfriend at the time, we were lying in bed and I said 'I want to tell you something' and I smiled shyly...he freaked out and said 'Oh god, don't say what I think you're going to say!'
and he looked horrified and not happy.
I wanted to check in case he thought I was pregnant or something I said 'what do you think I'm going to say?'
and he said 'that you love me!'.
I swallowed the golf ball lump in my throat and managed to struggle silently to not get upset in front of him, and jokingly replied,
'no, don't be stupid! I was just going to say I felt really happy' and I laughed to show he was silly and I was still cool.
I then realised in his reaction that I would bite my tongue if ever I wanted to tell a guy I loved him again...he had to say it first so I didn't make a fool of myself, lose my equality and ultimately feel like sh*t. because I did feel like sh*t...his reaction was a kick in the gut to say 'I don't love you'.
Anyway...that ended ages ago thank goodness...I dumped him after a year for not being that into me and immature as feck.
I wasn't telling that story for any sympathy etc by the way...I don't need it and am not asking for it, it's ancient history...and you live and learn. That was my point re your love and commitment comment and not mentioning it unless she does first.
In my case...we'd be at an impasse!
Anyway, you know what I mean...you say some good points, but I'm just doing my girl's eye view again.
You can tell I'm a girl...I talk too much lol
xx