| Say you have been seeing a girl who is somewhat interested in you and you're just not sure, is it too forward to ask her how she feels about you? Or should you yourself tell her how you feel about her then ask her how she feels about you.
By asking her first are you basically fucking yourself over by putting her in a defensive and vulnerable position?
It all depends on how long you've been seeing her arcktik..and HOW you have been seeing her: if you do it after the first date, it's wayyy too early. She'll think "how can he know he loves me after seeing me only one time? Are his feelings for me only superficial?" It will hurt your game. So the best thing you can do is go on around 5-10 dates and THEN say it. This shows: A) your feelings are genuine and not shallow or just for sex and B) you are everything BUT needy and desperate, because these factors KILL the attraction.
As far as how you've been seeing her goes: did you two already kiss? Did you feel up on each other in the more private areas? Did you already have sex with her? Because research has proven that from a biological point of view (hormones), that the more intimate you've been with someone, the more attachment you'll feel with having sex being the masterpiece of "hormonal attachment" (for lack of a better word).
About making your move: why ask? Being a leader or dominant is one of the most attractive qualities in a man, in fact, it's why badboys are so seductive: they take what they want, when they want it, how they want it..and without ever thinking about the consequences. They NEVER ask, they take. If you ask her about her feelings btw, you'll be everything but the leader and the truth is: women want to be swept off their feet, not give a dog 3 million bones before he finally grows the balls to take action.
So here's what you do: TELL HER your feelings straight up and as detailed as possible. It's showing you're dominant, willing to take risk to get her. Most men tell a woman: I'm into you and that's it, but that's not seducing, that's being boring and everything but convincing. SHOW her you have feelings and tell her WHY: she's beautiful, attractive (her personality), your feelings are there, etc. Making a whole speech out of it is overdoing it, but you get the idea: more than a few words please.
The biggest advantage of telling her though is that it's an ultimate display of confidence: here I am, I feel this and that, take it or leave it. It's ASSUMING attraction: assuming she's into you too and taking action on it. By assuming it, you'll be more open, more comfortable around her, have more confidence, you're more talkative and you'll smile more..and these are all factors that AMPLIFY the attraction. So assuming attraction is a self-fulfilling prophecy: because you assume it, you create it. As a sidenote: most men are horribly off when they try to guess how she feels, simply because they wait for 10 friggin' signals while the first one already meant a BINGO!
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