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hey so new question,
how do you guys usually work qualification? Like what does that mean exactly? If you get to know a girl by getting to know what you guys have in common in the beginning, isn't that qualifying straight away?
Well it is, but sometimes you have to exaggerate the fact that your qualifying her a bit. But before I get into that, it's important to look at it from the woman's perspective.
Imagine that your a hot woman and you know that men want to sleep with you. If a man starts show interest without knowing anything about you at all, it obvious that he is only interested in the sex and not you as a person.
So what you have to do as a pua is simple, don't telegraph so much interest right off the bat. Question her (not like an interrogation, but simply as part of comfort building), mention qualities or quirks about her that you like or you think are cute, then just gradually show more interest in her as you find more things about her you like.
This way she feels like your interested in her as a whole and not just as a hole.
Also don't be afraid to verbalize your gradual acceptance, use phrases like "You're kinda weird, but I like that", "I like that in a woman", "I really respect that", "Wow, I'm impressed". These phrases are like rewards for good behavior, so only give them for things you really like. People will readily modify their ego to impress other people, so if you say you like certain things about her, she will begin to accentuate those qualities when she is around you.
It is also very important for you to disagree with her a little during this process. Remember if you're qualifying her, then you shouldn't be trying to impress her with how similar you two are, that's her job in this scenario. Feel free to express your own opinions, she will respect you more for it.