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I was and still am in love with her, but I'm not going to lower myself to a suck-up level in order to pursue her.
As you can tell in my previous post, I took the whole thing a bit lightly. . . until I read your little sentence above.
Call me a romantic, afc, whatever you want . . . but I believe in love. We try to dissect all the facets of attraction and run our little games but even if we can "explain it", we really can't over come it. . . can we? Love is love. Don't take this lightly. Go ahead and do every trick in the book. Screw 10 other girls. Date 10 other girls, etc . . but you have to figure this out quickly.
I bet every guy here still has that one. That one you still cannot get out of your mind no matter what after all those years.. My God, I have that ONE . . . but for me to have made it work with her, I had to throw EVERYTHING ELSE away. I mean everything like the type you can't imagine everything. And I still think about her now and then. Should I have done it?
Regrets suck but regrets in regards to LOVE is the worst thing a guy can have for his lifetime. You ever talk to those 65 year old dudes who share tears over their sweethearts? I mean this is totally nuts! I met old dudes who recall colors, scents, hands, dances, moles, smiles, conversations, arguments, etc . . . I even know a 60+ year old couple who married other ppl but still loved each other ALL 40 + years. When one divorced and the other became a widow, they somehow found each other and actually MARRIED. This is fortunate . . . but they lost 40 years . . .
Not saying your love for this girl is one way or another because only you can figure this out. So after all this, the 2 choices I posed on my initial post still stands. Continue with your life . . . or give love a shot . . .
If you want her back, this is the forum to ask the questions on HOW TO get her back. You do NOT need to suck up to her. You don't have to lower your standards and YOU SHOULD NOT accept her tag alongs fucking things up for your relationship.
Look, don't confuse your situation with oneitis. "Oneitis" is a disease chumps get who haven't even kissed the girl. You spent time with her . . . this is different. If you're undecided . . you know what? I'd still game her and win her back. At least this way, you'd have more time to spend with her and figure this out further. You leave her out in the water for long and as you've already found out, plenty horny guys out will swoop her up.