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Throughout my past during pickups, relationships, friendships, and fuck buddies there have been times where they insult you. A flat out flash of fucking anger.
" You're so fucking annoying, You're a dumbshit, Gawd leave me alone, Shut the fuck up" ect. Those insults that literally come out of thin air over the smallest things. Literally, it raises out of nothing, like a simple question or a statement that asks them to repeat a question, there was bad frequency over the cellphone. What do they mean? Whats the best way to handle them? I know it varies per person/pick up/and relationship but there has to be a general rule on what you should do. I know one thing not to do is take it personally and let it affect your state but it does. I feel lame and pathetic when things like this occur and bug me because I feel like I did nothing wrong but they lash it on me. And no, its not their period.
I don't know you in real life, so with the few details you've offered me, I can only come up with a few possibilities as to what could be going on beneath the surface.
1. They could just be shit-testing you, and the type of girls that you are attracted to are just a little bit unorthodox in their methods of testing. If that's the case, respond to their flashes of anger as you would to any shit-test.
2. You could be going through one of those Deangelo phases where you aren't balancing the Cocky and Funny formula too well. You may be being too cocky and not enough funny. When this happens, girls get really annoyed. I went through this phase before. If that's the case, let go of your ego. That's where the miscalibration usually comes from.
3. Human beings are, in general, unpredictable in many regards. There are always too many variables to take into account. The girl may have had a shitty day and you caught her at a bad time. By the context of your question, though, it sounds like this has happened on multiple occasions with multiple girls. You may have a tendency to call girls when they are in a bad mood somehow lol. Or, you may have a habit of eliciting negativity when in conversation with women. If that's the case, take Tony Robbin's 7-day positivity challenge. For 7 days, try to think of ONLY positive thoughts. If you think ANYTHING negative, quickly reframe it into something positive. This will give your brain a great new productive habit.
The next time this happens with a girl you are actually close to, just ask her what's up. Tell her that you're willing to listen and find out if she's had a rough day, if you actually said anything that offended or hurt her, or anything of the sort. We PUAs sometimes focus so much on reading subcommunication that we oftentimes forget about basic communication.
...But, of course, there's good reason for that. This type of communication will get you nowhere if you aren't close to the girl. You also need to be emotionally intelligent.