hahaha i wouldnt be caught dead wearing that. lol

I began Martial arts when I was 9 years old and was heavily involved for 12 years. After heading off to college, I couldn't find time to keep up with it. I eventually started training in stunt work for theatre and films. It's just as tough and needs discipline to pull it off, so it has similar applications.

Two things come out of Martial Arts, one is physical fitness and mastery. A fit guy is still a more attractive guy. Even if you are no Adonis and I'm not, I am physically active and in better shape than if I sat on my duff.

Two is the protection factor. Style mentions this in his LAS VEGAS part of the Annihilation Method. A martial artists has a certain appeal to girls because they are capable of handling themselves if things got tough.

As for confidence, that's a different story. You are as confident as you want to be. But I feel the best way to confidence is to set goals and accomplish them. And Martial Arts generally have many goals for one to achieve. It can be a belt or rank, or a tournament win or simply mastering new techniques. Chicks dig a guy who knows what he wants and knows how to get it.

Also exercise and physical activity improve ones mood. And a guy in a good mood is more attractive to girls. Most of my long term friends I met doing Martial Arts, so I belong to a tribe of these types, another benefit and one that chicks dig.

Basically, there is no down side to finding a good Martial Arts school (finding a good one can be tough). Exercise, increased mood, weight loss, physical mastery. One down side though, Dojos are typically 80% guys. They are a lousy place to meet girls.

Still many times you can get some good wing mates there so I wouldn´t call this a down side, it would be a constraint. :p

Great post.

This is an awsome idea. i dont have any confidence difficulty with girls its more with the guys that are with the girls.

inspiring
i've just started tae kwan doe and might be taking up BJJ fighting for confidence aswell

Pick up Muay Thai if you end up doing a martial art. I've been doing it for awhile, the training isn't too formal and it's fun stuff. All the nerves in my shins are dead and its rock solid, so if you end up having to fight another martial artist, a kick in the foot pretty much game over for them. A black eye would be a greta conversation piece as well haha. Jiu jitsu is good to if you don't want to break anything. I've been learning a couple of grapples lately and it's great fun. So yeah, do a martial up. Makes you look fitter, better and so you'll probably live longer. Also gives you confidence, I'm not so intimidated by guys now because I know if shit goes down I won't be the guy on the ground.

I was thinking of taking kickboxing this summer. Maybe they will have muai thai lessons there.

I have been in Martial Arts now for 3 years. Training in Taekwondo, and currently have a broken jaw, which isnt hurting my game as much as you would think. lol. But there is no question, TAKE UP MARTIAL ARTS. It will help in all aspects of life. Plus girls always ask me questions about it and seem to be intrested.

Someone said it earlier, how its hard to find a good school. Make sure you take a Martial Art taught the REAL way, and not a watered down version for kids. I have been to so many schools, alot of them are POWDER PUFF schools. People might think this is the safe way to train, with no contact, and little fighting. But the truth is, this is very unsafe becasue it will give you a false sence of confidence which inturn will get you ass kicked. Truth is, Martial Arts is a CONTACT sport, you will get hurt, and injured, but hopefully nothing serious. My broken jaw is the worst I have had.

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SO full contact I assume with the pads are the way to go? I really want to learn discipline and self control which may help with me being able to control my creativity.

YUP, just look for a good school, with some contact and make sure the master of the school is teaching classes, not the blackbelts. Its a great experience, and you'll have alot of fun. Good Luck and (speaking with a broken jaw) keep your hands UP!!!

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Once again, most of what was said was good info, but speaking as a second Degree black-belt, I can tell you that it doesn't matter how hard you train, the inner conflict issues that are there WILL remain until you do something about them.
Confidence-wise, I have plenty. However, it took me quite awhile to just relax and "Go with the flow" when it comes to women sometimes. I always have an ideal picture of what I want to accomplish in my mind, but when my mental picture does not come to fruition, I used to be extremely hard on myself when I did not get the results I wanted right then and there. I now realize that I need to slow down and take a look at the big picture in order to pick out the finer details.

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Make the "Ho say no", remember fellas, a "ho" without any instruction is headed for self destruction!

Let them haters do their job, and you work their women like a job!

Don't talk so much, you'll make people hate you!

I have been taking Gracie Braizilian Jujitsu for the past 4 months and reading the mystery books. My game is defianlty elevating, there are bruises on my arm and some girls at the bar will ask me about them and then we start talking. It's almost like the bruises are a form of peakocking. Plus I have lost 18lbs and feel great which helps. In the first chapter of mystery's book he talks about how girls seek men that have survival traits and feel protected along with how we need to just have one thing were good at to be confident. Marital arts (jujitsu) for me is doing all that.

It will get you in good shape, and you'll feel better about yourself. I would say do it, and take it seriously. Women seem to like men who could protect them, and a black belt would do a pretty good job of demonstrating that.

I've practised Kendo for more than 6 years now and while its more of a martial sport than anything else, its very good at training endurance, your sense of natural movement and posture which is excellent in conveying a confident attitude, and your mental zen-like way of thinking which plays a part in diminishing (but not getting totally rid off) your approach anxiety.
Also, Kendo has a lot of female practitioners. Almost about 30% of any class would probably be women as they can safely train with guys as well due to all the armor and non physical contact. Although...uh...I must say that in all my years in Kendo, I haven't come across any that is a HB7 and above...only see 6.5 at the most but its a good place to hook up with women as a form of socialising.

WORD to Kenster & Flood7.... That's whats up. You wanna talk about REALLY being and ALPHA male.. It all starts with knowing how to, in the event that you have no alternative, defend yourself or any of your friends & ladies. All the jive people talk seems a bit less daunting if you KNOW with CONFIDENCE that you can handle things.
That... And, chicks DO dig SCARS! An odd abrasion on a man is a badge of honor & a black eye WILL pull you more gals than can be imagined.... Then again, so will mastery of this "game" we are all students of, but every ingredient we can include into our recipe fro success SHOULD be included.