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As the title says i recently (as in today) beat the shit out of some idiot. He was talking shit about my gf (i go through many). i confronted him with this in a calm yet frustrated attitude. i asked him why is he doing this and told him to stop. he responded by calling me a fag. i was surprised by this due to the fact that i am a tough guy in my school and most people are smart enough to not talk smack to me. After a few minutes of us tossing insults i said "you better shut your f**king mouth or i'll beat the shit out of you" he said lets go and i kindly took him outside and beat him inside out, and said to never talk shit about me or my gf again.
i don't really know how this fairs for me because i havn't been in a fight since becoming a pua. How does this affect me and my game?
Not a valid reason to fight, end of story. People "talking" isn't enough to get down and dirty, unless he is in YOUR FACE or THREATENING you then there is no reason to fight. Just because he talks shit, doesn't mean you should fight. Now you look like just as much of a jackass as he does, whether you win or not. Fighting should be reserved for self-defense or the defense of others. Not because he is "talking smack". That's immature, childish, and unproductive.
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Fighting is a DLV. There are precious few exceptions. I don't believe this was one from the way you talk about it.
If he insulted your gf, then you stand up for her, but you don't get into a fight over it, even if he persists and starts insulting you. It makes you look insecure. It takes a much bigger man to talk sensibly and then when you realise that that isn't working, then just walk away.
The exception to this in my opinion, is when threats are made, because then you have something that needs to be resolved and isn't mere words that are able to be shrugged off. If the threat is just big talk, then shrug it off, but if it is truly serious, then you either get someone else to handle it, like an authority figure at your school, or the police, but unless they are going to act upon it immediately without any chance to do that, then you have to act. You need to be able to tell someone just talking smack and someone that is serious in their threats.
Sure he was a tool, but you sunk to his level, so that makes you appear to be one to any outside perspective.
Fighting a DLV? Perhaps. I think that's far to situational to be able to say that all forms of fighting are demonstrating low value. And I also think there are more than a few exceptions. While I do agree that this was not the time or the place to fight.
The problem with this situation is you initiated the situation. He was just talking, something tons of people do. You took that step to be the asshole, to meet him halfway in being an asshole. It's much better to let him be the asshole and come to you, then knock his block off. Until he steps to you, you don't initiate. End of story. Never go looking for a fight. You can defend your girl with your reassurance and calm attitude. If she is in REAL danger then you fight for her.