Right. Got an issue.

Subject: HB 9.5 with boyfriend that goes to my uni. Flirtation with limited kino has occured over long period of time. Anytime I've tried to escalate there has been resistance but I've just backed up then tried again ... it's been slow but there's progress. (Been continously running boyfriend destroyers as well)

Anyway, she's always surrounded by a horde of chodes so I'm weary of joining that list of gimps ... which brings me to this.

Just got a call from her - short version - She has a mouse in her house that is freaking her out, can I come and 'deal with it' ... her boyfriend is out of town and she's asked a few of his friends but they've all said no.

Translation - she is a hot chick with no girl friends because they're intimidated of her and no guy friends because they all just try and hook up with her. This could easily just turn into her clapping and me coming a running.

I told her I'm working in the lib (true) but was wondering if I should go round there when it closes in 45 mins ... and if so ... what should I do? Or should I just ignore her cos she may very well be just trying to play me to do her chores.

clock is ticking .. thanks guys.

sounds like u sorta have oneitis... but i wont get into that right now

the idea is that you're not just going to come running, but you really don't have to worry about it too much because you didn't come over right away, you waited till you were done working.. so
try something like...

Right, I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm not sure if I was LJBF'd from the beginning or if I just severely choded out on a decent opportunity to bang her brains out.

Firstly, cheers delta for the advice, even though I didn't get to see your post before I left I pretty much went into it with that mindset (so maybe it transferred to me beyond the internet highway)!

Secondly, I don't think it's oneitis mate, I'm definitely aware of putting other girls on a pedestal but not this one for some reason, in fact if anything the alternative might be true, haven't been into her enough when I should have been to make the move. But I'll come back to that.

So I went round, she greets me at the door in the skimpiest fucking top you ever saw (her tits are falling out of this thing all the time I'm there).

As I walk in

Me: By the way .. the whole 'there's a mouse in my house' thing is by far and away the most transparent excuse that a girl has ever used to get me round to her house. Just to be clear .. we're not having sex tonight.

Her: Shut up *girly hits me*

....

So I deal with the mouse issue, which she does actually seem to be quite genuinely fucked up about. I break the ice with a little humour

Me: Seriously HB, lets not beat around the bush that arse of yours has grown a lot as of late ... the mouse is probably scared away from the vibrations it makes alone.

Her: OH MY GOD *girly hits me*

....

I actually felt very chilled out. This girls parents are fucking loaded and she has her own 2 bedroom flat in central london that is decked out in the nicest decor. She's a proper rich kid. Rich kids are funny ... I'm chilled.

We smoke, she still looks a bit fazed by the whole thing

Me: You need to chill out and indulge in some happy thoughts darlin!

Her: Blah Blah ... I can't help it ... Blah blah .. I keep seeing mice everywhere ... blah blah

Me: Ok ... what makes you happy ... like if you could do absolutely anything right now to make you smile from ear to ear what would it be.

Her: talks about seeing her family (they're not in the country) then talks about shopping (jeez ... I realised how materialistic\superficial this chick is over the space of the next hour).

... We chat breeze for a few secs then I say lets go to the living room (where the mouse was) ... I was gonna force her to relax. It worked.

Before long we're on the sofa, she's got a blanket over herself (not me .. I'm sat next to her) and (although how we got there I have no idea) we basically end up talking about sex for about 25 mins whilst she has her feet under my legs to keep them warm and plays with my hair and bracelet.

It's not as cool as it sounds, at points it kinda felt like I was one of her girlfriends ... she was even talking about sex with her boyfriend at one point ...

Me: (tongue in cheek) This is bollocks, I ain't one of your girlfriends. I'm not about to let you demasculate me after I have the decency to come and rescue you from the dreaded mouse ... (Then I let out a loud burp whilst I scratch my balls). She burst out laughing.

There were cooler moments ... I was talking about one of her gf's at one point and said she should hook us up.

Her: No way, you'd mess her around.

Me: Excuse me! I'm the perfect gentleman, woman are the ones that always use me (exaggerated sobbing)

Her: Watever!!

Me: I'm just a hopeless romantic ... look imagine that your your friend and we're on a date ....

Her: ok?

Me: (I put on a really cheesy 'romantic' voice) ... I'd look her deep in the eyes and tell her 'I'm having such a wonderful time' (I stroke her hair as I say this) .... 'I just can't get over how unbelievably beautiful you are'.... 'but you know what ... you'd look EVEN prettier if ......... you sucked my cock'.

Her: (bursts out laughing)

Me: (cheeky smile) ... well?

Her: Please QC, if we were going to have sex I'd have fucked you when we first met. (I'll be honest this would have floored me if she hadn't continued) I'd have fucked you hard all over my flat in many positions but it wasn't to be.

Me: (Over the top shocked face, long pause) ... Well if there's no sex then I'll be off ... (I get up)

Her: (grabs my arm) nnoooooo ... stay!

........

There were other exchanges like this and at one point I even had both her wrists and we were playing about me 'pinning her down'. But I couldn't escalate it further, plus there was always an air of OVER playfullness about this and I think that a lot of that came from the fact that I was SO chilled.

It got late and she started talking about bad relationships in the past (yet kept on mentioning how great her current "boyf" was) I had to bust so I ejected with nada to show for my efforts.

'LJBF' or dick that didn't make the killer move? I'm not sure.


I got this text from her about 15mins after I left

'Hey Girlfriend! ... I mean QC. Thanks 4 coming over, I know u r v busy at this time of year. Nice chatting shit wit u. Get home safely xx'

I don't fucking know.

Really?

You're so far in the LJBF zone you'd have better chance if you were her brother.

I don't mean to be too blunt, but I'd focus your attention on somebody else.

Focus your attention on her friend. IF anything, she might get jealous and you know what happens from there.

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HAHA!
Think I'm just going to go with Clancey and focus my attention elsewhere. But I need to suss this out for future reference, have I been LJBF'd because I took to long to make the killer move (she has a boyfriend, that was my excuse for not escalating from the first meeting).

I definitely haven't been putting her on a pedestal, she thinks I'm far more of a PUA than I actually am, at least thats what comes across from what she says behind my back.

The two replies above mine said it all.

HMM, you did good. I prob. would of told her she was giving me a blowjob in a humorous but serious way as I whipped it out and let her see it, Then you just shut up and wait for her response, dont dare say a damn thing! some chicks just cant resist when they see it. No games, straight up decision time for her, at that point you did everything you should have,,,, I have had more great head when the offer is with the meat on the table. Of course this is just my opinion and the game with her would either be over or you would have gotten what you wanted. As the old saying goes, When in doubt, whip it out.

It's tough to say exactly what went wrong. If she thinks your a player then you might have had attraction but not enough comfort, but from readin the story I'd say there was too much comfort (especially if she talked about sex with her boyfriend) and not enough escalation.

One point that I see a being a turning point (comments on this welcome form all) is when she said she wouldn't fuck you, you said you wouldn't stay if there wasn't going to be sex, she told you to stay anyway and you did. That is confirming in her mind you're happy to be there without sex. Honestly, I don't know the best way to deal with that...maybe it was already too late.

Anyway, I'm glad to hear you're moving on, just treat this as a learning experience.