I'm a little late to this thread, so apologies if some of this was covered already.
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I just hate how this makes naturals sound superior to PUAs, when in actuality, PUAs have the advantage.
They may have the advantage with girls, but who has the better deal? Although they may get slightly less girls, they never worry about whether or not they will get the girl, they can go out and truly relax, and they will not have to analyse every situation they are in (although the PUA would only do this in the early stages).
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A natural doesn't have the self confidence and personal awareness that a PUA does. Sure, he is good with girls naturally, but he doesn't know how or why, so if a girl that he really likes crushes him, he doesn't recover easily.
This is a huge generalisation! How can you possibly say that a natural doesn't have the self-confidence of a PUA?
Also, I think being hurt by a girl is part of normal life. Not in the AFC sense of course, but are you saying PUAs should never fall in love for fear of their feelings being hurt? That's madness.
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A PUA has got boatloads of confidence and understands why he is good, what his flaws are and learns from them, instead of being hurt when he runs into failure, he grows from it and becomes stronger.
I do agree with this whole heartedly.
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While I agree, I have to point out that not every natural or PUA behave that way. Naturals always get talked about in this community as not knowing what they are doing. My anecdotal knowledge tells me that all my natural friends picked up on things like proximity, negs, push/pull, and compliance tests. They even told one of my AFC about these things to try to help him... they just didn't have fancy names.
Exactly. I asked a natural friend of mine what he thinks about when he goes into a set, and what he does. He said, "I see a group with a hot girl and go and talk to the other people, trying to become the centre of attention to make sure she notices me. I will involve everybody but give her slightly less attention, and make comments to her friends like, 'she's trouble, look at her trying to get the attention,' until she gets flirty with me, then I'll focus on her."
He doesn't even know what a PUA is, and has never read a single word of pick up. It just makes sense to him that that is what he should be doing.
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AFCAdam, if you read what I said, you'll see I said that confidence has nothing to do with superiority. I didn't say you don't need it to pick up women, I merely stated that many people can have confidence, and just because a PUA has confidence, this does not make him superior to any other type of man.
However, you believe it makes you superior. Because you know that someone without confidence cannot be superior, only positionally. Not in measure of true leadership. Therefore, confidence is a requirement to boost your superiority. Without confidence, it's impossible for a man to be superior. The flip side of the equation is, you can have confidence, not have positional leadership, yet still be superior if you are in fact the true leader. Now, what is the point you are trying to get to again? Just spit it out son.
Smith is right, superiority is not something that comes directly from confidence. It's ridiculous to say that you cannot be superior without being confident. There are many people that are considered superior that do not have confidence (I'm talking about all walks of life, not pick up). If anything, I think you are looking at this the wrong way round. Confidence doesn't breed superiority, but it's certainly true that superiority can cause confidence in most people.