Ka, this is an excellent post, rep points coming your way!

I have a question. I am a stockbroker. Some people think this to be a cool job, including myself, the problem is that girls in London have heard it a lot, both because there are a lot of brokers and because some people say it to look good. As such, it seem to be associated with lying or with being a typical arrogant broker.

I could come out and say, "I'm a broker but it's not my real passion, my real passion is..." and go into something else, but I like the fact I'm a broker and need a way to convey it without sounding a) arrogant and money driving and b) like a finance geek.

Can you help?

Thanks Clancy, glad you found this post useful.

As far as your issue goes, Why should you change who you really are because other scum bags dirty the laundry?

you wana know what i do?
i work for the government....from home...doing nothing....im unemployed

see how many degrees difference there can be in changeing what im saying slightly?

Tell them you spend other peoples money, then say you take peoples money and buy parts of companies with it, then go into a story about becomming a broker.

Post a paragraph or two about how/why you got into being a broker, why you like it, what it does for you, etc...and maybe a moral/lesson/or feeling overall that it gives you. Ill try to help you shape it into a story.

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"Be the same, only better."

Thanks Ka, I'll post that when I have a chance (at work now).

I thought of a good (hopefully) DHV story last night, I'll post it tonight and see what you think...

Hey, wanna see a picture of my dog?
(show cell phone pic)

Hes the cutest chihuahua you have ever seen, with such a personality.

To bad he was taken in the divorce, just kidding ive never been married. I dont get visitation right either lol. But if we were married you wouldnt take my dog would you?
people make the most fasinating connections with there pets. I missed my dog more than i missed her.

ok thats my dhv ive been working on and i tried to throw in some C+F
any tips??

Sorry man, thats just confusing...if i were your target i wouldnt know if your married or not, then my next thought would be that its kinda creepy.

I see the dog/pic thing working but i see it as a precursor to a routine that you do related to animals.

Maybe its an opener, "Hey guys i need an opinion, FTC, do you think the majority of people are cat people or dog people?" (knwoing full well most people will tell you dog)

Or maybe come up with a cold reading that lets you determine if they are a cat person or dog person?

Then your story has to have some meaning, some meet if you will, to convey a thought, feeling or message.

Id leave the whole married/divorced/never married thing out of it...its confusing and doesnt exactly flip the attraction switches.

Id make the story about your dog, how you got it, why you got it etc...the only part i like is the line ,"people make the most fasinating connections with there pets..."

tell you what try it again...this time make it about your pet, the feelings, the name, a good experience, why you love it, etc....post that and ill help you reform it if needed.

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"Be the same, only better."

Sorry about the confusion i meant it to be after an opener and in more of a comfort zone, but i reread it too and the married/divorce thing does get a bit confusing so here goes...

after the opening...
I had a puppy for a while, its kind of funny but i really wasnt ready for a dog yet, especially a chihuahua! But when i got him he was the most lovable little white chihuahua i have ever seen. I felt like he was my little compadre. Its almost like pets can make you forget your problems and make you feel loved. What makes you feel loved?

sorry having a tough time with this cause the story sucks cause the dog got taken by my ex so i tried to leave it out.
Thank for the help it is very appreciated!!!!

Ill try a new story later in the post mabey

That was a much better read. However at the end i wouldnt ask a question like that...instead ask if shes ever felt connected like that. Also i hate to say it but this might be best used for comfort building.

In your stories you want to at least hint on things that can flip attraction switches. This story could hit on willingness to emote...but willingness to emote alone should be saved for close to comfort.

Attraction switches
+Leader of Men
+Protector of Loved Ones
+Non-neediness
+Willingness to Emote or Show Emotion
+Willingness to take risks

While these are specific and simple, there is also a broader range of topics that can help you DHV, but these are the things that will show her your alpha.

I think almost every DHV story should touch on the fact that your social...be it mentioning a social interaction you had, or a general statement like, "...and this jod affords me the ability to get out, love life, and meet new people..."

Some of best stories come from experiences you overlook. A goofy party you went to, a bad frat party, a cool club, dive bar...maybe even something that happened at work or with your buddies just hanging out.

We need to ask ourselves while forming or recieting a story, "What does this story convey that is DHV?", "Is there a point to my story?", "Did something happen out of the ordinary in my story?"

There are of course other questions...but the simple idea is are you telling a story that anyone else could tell, or is it unique and intresting, not because it only happened to you...but because your the only one who tells it this way.

if you gave the same facts to 10 random people and told them to right 1-2 paragraphs about it, as a story...id say you'd be lucky if one person told the story in an intresting maner. They would accomplish this through storytelling skills, because the details would be the same right? the others would blah on a list of details and unintresting facts. The story doesnt need to be a unique concpet...its the way you present the story which must be unique.

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"Be the same, only better."

Ka, here's the DHV story I came up with, what do you think:

"You really remind me of someone. My band used to play gigs at this place where they had a club night straight after the bands, so the headline act had to quickly get all their gear off stage so they could take the barriers down and open up the whole club. We would usually be backstage for about for 15-20 minutes packing up before we came out to meet up with all of our mates who came to the gig. Anyway, this one time I came back into the club after packing up and this girl had waited to speak to me even though her friends had moved onto another club. I remember thinking, what kind of girl does that? I guess now I know, one that looks like you! (C&F)"

That sounds pretty good. Honestly its got a different feel to it though, its like those comedians who go into a story to get to the gag at the end. Give it a try and see how it works, my guess is if the chick has any sence of humor she will laff. I see a way to make it slightly better...

"...Anyway, this one time I came back into the club after packing up and this girl had waited to speak to me even though her friends had moved onto another club. TURNS OUT SHE WAS KINDA CRAZY LOL. I remember thinking, what kind of girl does that? I guess now I know, one that looks like you!"

This way your applying a descriptive to her looks...she doesnt just look like some other girl, she looks like another girl who happens to be crazy, in turn your implying she is. Might make for a chance to get her to qualify to you by explaingin that shes not crazy.

The band thing is always good to have as a DHV, make sure you can answer any questions that come along with that...also it flips preselection in a way and at the same time lets you neg and be C&F.

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"Be the same, only better."

Please tell me how to improve / spice up:

(NOTE: I look 15 but am 14)
Have you ever been to ###. Well me and my friends were hangin round at my friend’s restaurant (have to take you there) and then I said we should see a movie. The only good film was a 15 and we were all getting excited about seeing it. When they were finishing I went to get tickets and then I was pretty chuffed that I actually got them. Gave tickets to people – all ‘congratulating’ (needs to be more subtle maybe) me. So I went in first with someone and sat down inside. We waited for about 5 minutes and it was a bit strange the others hadn’t arrived so I went to look for them and there was this fatso standing next to them – nah I mean he was like squashing them against the wall and I was like ‘what’s up?’. He moved his fat mouth as his triple chin flapped like a turkey’s (what do you call the red thing) and said that she wasn’t 15. I said that she was – she’s in my year and she’s 15. Everyone was generally getting really pissed off now. Then he started to be really rude by calling her a 12 year old and I was just sticking up for her and said that ‘his mother was so fat that when she jumped for joy she got stuck’ (Russell peters style) and got kicked out. Then was properly pissed off - everyone saying wasn’t my fault. SO don’t go to cineworld in ####.

Thanks Ka. I think C&F is probably the closest thing my natural style, I've always got girls by being funny in the past so I guess tha't why it sounds like a long joke.

By the way, answering the band questions is no problem, the story is true apart from the girl waiting around for me. I did always get girls easily after gigs though (we haven't had one for a while), I guess all the attraction switches are flicked just by me being on stage and being half good. All I had to do was be a bit funny and I'd usually k-close at least.

This is a bit harder for me to tackle. It doesnt mean i wont try but there is an obvious chasim in our ages and thus views of DHV. If you were any older id say your better off not using this story, however to your peers this may be a big DHV.

So ima take a crack at polishing it up a bit and you try it out and let us know how well it works, i have every confidence that your peers will find it cool.

My version:
"You know whats funny, this one time my friends and i went to the movies. We started out at my friends resturant just shooting the shit and i decided we should see a movie. The only decent movie was a 15 and my friends were kind nervous that we might not get tickets, but i assured them it wasnt a problem and went and grabbed us all tickets.

They were real excited to see it and a few of my friends went to grab food while a friend and i got seats. We waited for a while but my firends didnt hadnt come back yet, so i went to go look for them and saw that they got stopped on thier way in. Some huge dude stopped them, specifically my friend (insert female name here). The funny thing is she was actually old enough but he kept insisting she was underage.

So i walked up to the fat dude and was like, "listen dude, shes with me and shes 15...whats the matter you cant tell how old she is?". Well godzilla didnt like this and started argueing with us. I wasnt gonna let him put my friends down though and told him off...we got kicked out but my friends were happy that i stood up for them and didnt mind that we missed the movie."

Kinda a long story but it toches on willing to take risks, leader of group, willingness to emote, and protector of loved ones. Hope this helps.

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"Be the same, only better."

thanks man, field reports on sunday

first of all Ka, i gotta say that its really great that you are willing to spend time and effort for people who you dont really know and never met. Shows what a great community this is with guys like you around to help out. Okay so i think i have some great stories that can be made from my experience. ill jot them down quickly: 1.Im an A student in university studying life science in hopes of getting into med school
2. might seem kind creepy but i volunteered in a morgue for a summer
3.Have been doing competitive swimming for 7 years
4. Plan on running a marathon next year
5. really close relationship with my family
6. Im in a fraternity (yes you would expect me to get lots of girls but im just a friend to most of em)
7. Volunteered in the neurosurgery department at a hospital

i know its prolly too much and i got some more, but maybe if u can make one story out of the best topic i could make my own by using it as an example.

thanks in advance,

Rome0

Well I want to make a fighting story, so she knows I can protect her and i'm not a wimpy dude. Would it make a good DHV?

Have you ever been in a fight?
*Her Response*
Oh really? Well a few days ago I got in a fight with this guy at the park, I was at the park with my two friends and I noticed a couple of guys playing basketball and they invited us to play, so we joined them. In all of them there was one big fat dude, wannabe norteno dude. This guy picked on all the other guys in the group, slapping their faces and whatnot and he started acting like a punk with my two friends. In my mind I thought "if this guy messes around with me I will take him down" and believe it or not, the ball hit the rim and bounced off the court, the fat dude somehow ran to the ball, while I was going for it too. To beat me he pushed me and punched me right in the chest as I rebounded back from the push. He got the ball and he was coming back and the asshole punches me again in the chest, I decked him right back and stood straight. He now aimed and threw a clumsy blow at my head and I ducked I just went off on him this time and gave him a few good blows at his face. He wanted no more and I began walking with my friends telling them we were leaving. The fat dude goes up to me again and decks me in the face, I decked him a few times in the face again and he fell flat on his butt. I began walking off with my friends.

The funny thing is I saw him again at the park the other day except this time he instantly stopped being an asshole to all his friends as I passed by.

btw, true story but I don't like to brag about this but I want to tell people of my achievements. So can you help me out with this story??


btw, is this a DHV story??