My usually cynical response is that everything is always simple... for most but some of us. No offence meant, I'm just... A
FC?
I can't tell what my problem is. You are definitely right about pulling the trigger, but most of the time there is nothing to pull the trigger on. So far I've noticed that I mostly choke:
1. when I see a target and get fear of rejection (overthinking <- always and everywhere)
2. if I manage to approach it gets awkward very quickly (I can ask 1001 Qs but that usually leads to...)
3. conversation becomes too factual -> no sexual tension at all (read below), this is probably the biggest problem.
4. I can't escalate kino beyond minimal touch -> feeling awkward about trying
anything / feeling like a creep
x1. dancing - I'm pretty good at it (modern, techno & latino mix impro), but #4 applies like fuck my life
Elaboration for x1 and 4.: I like to start off by dancing (if the circumstance allows) because I work off stress and fear that way while at the same time making myself seen, but I can never figure out how to approach a woman. Or - god forbid, put my hands on her without feeling like a massive creep, even after having made/held eye contact! If I just extend my hand in a "would you like to dance" gesture the answer will always be no. MAybe it's cheesy. Twice it wasn't, but don't worry - I screwed those up in other ways that would probably make an average pua's mind implode.
Example for 2.: ex-classmate --> When I was working abroad she texted me, and we exchanged some mildly flirty texts. At least I was sure she had sex on (half of) her mind while I tried to take it cool while dropping hints. However, when I went to see her Saturday afternoon we sat 3ft+ apart on a sofa talking some heavy stuff for 4+ hours, and no pua progress was made. I was thinking about opening a topic on this in an appropriate thread if you guys think it's worthwhile - it's about day game progress during intellectual debates with women who don't like to be hugged too much. And before you say I should move on let me remind you, I would if I had a choice. This is the farthest I've gotten in months, I have to take advantage of the situation, no?
There is plenty of irony in that many men where I live have/had similar problems so when foreigners came women were completely unprepared for them. I had a hot classmate from Uzbekistan literally complain why nobody is hitting on her. ...and to think I was so used to this the fact she completely ignored me didn't even phase me. Shit. So many people writing books here, maybe I should write a biography on being a ninja.
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