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I apologize for posting an extended post of my original here, but am very inexperienced.
After having rebound sex with a woman (she's 41 and I'm 34), and three days later mid-conversation she says (exactly): "I'm wondering that we should keep it at a friend level for now. Especially that youre (me) just leaving a three year relationship"
What could this mean? Does this necessarily mean that i am in the friendzone? If so, has all sexual attraction and feelings vanished all of a sudden?
Also note that she admitted still being hung up on her ex who was an a-hole.
I know I may be too naive here, but at the moment I am too in my head and maybe in denial and need some guidance or a reality check. I appreciate all criticisms and suggestions, guys. Thanks in advance.
In the words of my boy on twitter "When a girls says she's been hurt and thus not ready for a relationship, its a polite way of saying 'Im just not interested'. If she likes you, she's going to let you fuck up her life reguardless"
There you have it.
You said it yourself, you're inexperienced. Sexual attraction takes maintenance. It's not something thats sticks around and last forever. It's like a fire; you spark the fire, you feed the fire, fan the fire and it stays active. You leave it be, give it the wrong fuel, etc it goes out.
You guys have to start asking yourselves, what is in the deal for her? Are you great in bed, a great conversationalist? Knowledgable and able to teach her many things, a good motivator, a leader, entertaining, charming and such a joy to be around, are you rich willing to finance her life.. What exactly is she getting out of it? You know what you want, you want to keep getting laid, you want the affection, you want the awareness that despite your experience that you can still succeed. What does she want? I wrote an article called "Men vs. Women: What we both want" Google that with Eddie Fews attached to it and it should come up. But feel to answer the question.. What are you offering?
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