I'm from Sydney, in my late 30's and excited to take the jump into this community, so thanks for having me.

I figured the best way to introduce myself would be to post a few “game-leaks”, that really sum up why I am here.

#1 Being Passive
The last time I was single was when I was 18, and back then I never really had to chase girls. So when I started going out again a few years ago I would just wait for things to happen, with a bit of a “if they want me they can come and get me” attitude. This passive approach obviously got me nowhere and affected my confidence even more.

About 2 months ago, I googled some openers and finally tried my first cold approach at a club. After 10 approaches that night I realised they were onto something.

#2 Attachment
Ever since I escaped the clutches of my ex-wife (demon lady) about 3 years ago, I’ve been a single man trapped in a married man’s body. I usually last about 2 weeks, before I make one of my dates my dates exclusive, which leads to a girlfriend, which leads to a lot of great things… for about 2 months. Then I’m done and want to be single again.

Now I’ve made a commitment to stay single for a while and work on myself.

#3 Closing
It’s weird, when I’m drunk, I’ll be so forward with a woman, and it usually works. Sober, I go through that thought process of “I don’t want her to think I’m a sleazy guy” and it drags out and fizzles. This often results in me sending mixed messages.

Aside from cold approaches in the day, this is my biggest challenge.

Thanks for reading!

This is a limiting mindset you should work to change. It's also a very normal one to have. You want to have enough social intelligence to know when you are stepping too far out of line, but unfortunately that concern that we have can sometimes impede our approaches or even let us talk ourselves out of approaching.

Instead of saying to yourself "I don’t want her to think I’m a sleazy guy" you should be saying to yourself "There is no reason why I am not enough" or "I am going to make this girl's night"

Remember, girls love to socialize. They enjoy when a guy walks up to them and they have a nice interaction. The more you do it, the nicer it will be. Just work on your mindset when approaching. Take 2-3 deep breaths before you go, every exhale eliminates the limiting belief, every inhale fills you with confidence and good vibes.

Thanks for the tip, will try it next time