It has been a while.

I would like to write something poetic about it, but in the end is that I’ve been fooled again: falling in love, banged others just to be sure, love confirmed, love died, deep alcohol-fueled depression that lasted months. One Tuesday morning I woke up and looked at my wretched self at the mirror: fighting shape gone, belly again, shitty look: I decided to get my shit together and start again.

But you aren’t here to read me whining, right? So, first of all, a couple of treats:


LAY REPORT #1: Saying “no” helped (lay-reports/saying-helped-vt204771.html)

LAY REPORT #2: Boardgame night (lay-reports/boardgame-night-vt204773.html)


Now, even if I’m still figuring out how to have a proper pick-up technique, I would also like some hints on how to actually keep a girl after you banged her, banged few chicks more just to be sure it’s not onetitis, and still want her - you know, when it will happen again. I don’t really know if create a thread in the General Questions or the Relationships one, I’m open to suggestions.

Anyway, back to pick-ups: one of my past friends-with-benefits, who I haven't seen in years, invited me to visit her in Ireland and crush at her place. She's somehow engaged to a Spanish surgeon but their relationship in sinking because of his multiple affairs. Maybe she wants to repay him with the same coin, maybe she just need a shoulder to cry on.

I care about her, but actually I don't give a shit about her relationship.

I just want to bang her, because she's hot as fuck and awesome in bed.

Any suggestions about this specific case? Thank you for your time!


Love to all,
K

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You're attitude is usually a reflection of your relationship success. The attitude is what makes a girl stick around or not around. You can fuck a girls brains out but it's never enough to keep her around but for so long. Its all in your attitude, your morals, your code, and what you stand for.

I personally want no parts of another mans chick; Im not even interested in being a chicks rebound after a relationship. Theres too much pussy out here, and no one for being used as a stepping stone or to get back at some guy that she doesn't have the self respect or strength to walk away from. Thats her and his problem.

But to answer your question; she wants both. She'll take the shoulder if you're offering it unconditionally, because ultimately she's just looking for emotional support she doesn't have so she can feel confident enough to leave. Women that revenge cheat on there mates are weak women. They don't have the strength to walk on there own, and so they use others, or try to "hurt him" to bring him down so they can feel powerful enough to leave. So at the same time, she'll use you as a get back if you escalate like you always have.

My whole thing is, you reap what you sow. Your willingness to bring down someone elses relationship , will reflect in your ability to uphold one yourself. Now if thats not something you care about; then go crazy, but if it is, you may wanna reconsider

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