So I run into this problem a lot. So I hope you can help me!

When I go out. I try to tease the girls, being a bit cocky etc. etc. I am according to some ladies, a good-looking guy. (not trying to be a showoff or anything)

Call me crazy, but one thing(I think), I have learned that if you are a good looking guy. Your game should be a bit different! Something inside of me tells me that.

Girls always call me a "player", when I am doing what I am suppose to do. And I can see it on the girls! They think all the time, "that this guy is probably a player I should watch out".
But when I go go out being more "Nice" then "teaseful" and bit cocky-funny,the girls seems to be more interested? I am really confused now. Am I crazy or has someone ran into the same problem like me?

Any theories on this, post etc?

I am a good looking guy and i'll tell you, what you gotta do is keep your frame. So, you should use the good look advantadge (where you automatically have some sort of value) and reinforce it by teasing and shit, putting the girl as less than you. I always throw "hey, tell me 3 things about you so I know you're not just a cute face" to girls who are really popular or desired, and they always get astonished and horny. Being hot means you can escalate REALLY fast. Girls don't like getting hugged and hand pulled by ugly shreks right away but by hot guys they love it.

If you're good looking and come across as too charming and confident many girls will perceive you to be out of their league and then will stop trying to save their ego/pride from what they see as a "eventual rejection from him."

With these girls be a bit less cocky and work more on the emotional connection side of things.

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Thanks guys, makes sense.

Searched on google, and actually suprisingly, I found a lot of forums debate on this subject
Apparently, this is a thing.

So you are saying I should behave alot nicer maybe? Taking myself a bit more serious?

I am more successful when i do just the opposite when you behave nicer they will think you look less appealing since they have came across many guys who are nicer to them so what's the difference between you and other guys you need to show them that you are not an easy prey

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If you're better looking it makes it easier to be much more direct with your intentions.

Hmm, kinda makes sense. Because they are faster attracted ?

Attraction is not a choice. If she thinks you're a player, shes already attracted to you on some level.

I agree with your post. Being good looking my self (according to girls I've talked to, more cute than hot though) I think we already demonstrate more value than guys who aren't as blessed as we are in the looks department, right away. (I just saw that another poster said a similar thing about value)

I agree with him that we can escalate quicker.

I think being good looking kind of gives us more freedom to be ourselves (goofy, geeky, nerdy) because the girl might accept that because just of the fact we're charming. I could be wrong on this though.

Hope this helps!

I completely agree with the looks being a factor into gave. It automatically gives you a higher value but like others said just never break frame. For instance, I've used opener's such as Hey can you hold this for me and she will say what is it and you say nothing bad I just need you to hold it for me, then she opens her hand and you hold it and start walking and talking.. Almost every time I've used that they always say you must be a player or you must do this all the time in which I always try to say something different to figure out what works best but if I say no I never do it they will always say thats bullshit you are too confident doing this.. You can use your looks to your advantage and tease them, etc.. It will be much easier and I've noticed if you don't break frame and keep up and reflect the confidence your looks should have you should always be fine or at least thats how its been for me.

That is an insightful point. Keeping congruence with what she Expects upon first seeing you.

The term "cocky" is often misunderstand when interpreted by guys who read it. The expression should be more along the lines of "Playful and confident". Being "too cocky" can easily be viewed as a turn off, so you can only imagine how much more that can become the case when someone is projecting cockiness that is not actually congruent with where they are in life.

Being good looking can open a bit more doors for you, and the level of skill required to get laid well decrease the better looking you are. But an average looking guy working hard can skill get laid. Good looks is like "talent", but hard work can always beat out the talent that doesn't work hard.

As far as the "player" comments, you have to understand that it is damn near every girls subconscious fantasy to get the guy who was once a player to be tamed, and settle down and focus on them. So they're always projecting this and believing this is the case about the guy they find attractive. Just as we as guy have this "purity" complex and are always believing the women we are interested in is more pure than she actually is. Because of this, men pretend they've been with more women than they actually have, and women pretend they've been with less men than they actually have. Its us both protecting what we feel the others subconscious desire is. Ask 10 women about their boyfriends and at least 6 of them will tell you that their boyfriend was a super player before they met him. He's likely projected this, and she's cast it on him as well because she wants to believe she got the man everyone desired, but no one could get to settle. So just understand that this is their projections, and they'd likely project it on you whether they were super into you or not. Not to mention, how much more satisfying to the ego is it to believe you rejected a "player" than it is that you rejected an average joe that everyone rejects? It makes the feel better. So for the most part disregard this.

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Sounds like a lot of kj to justify thinking you're hot but not getting laid to me.

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This is so true. I see these trashy women on facebook making these posts "If you win him back after he cheated on you just to show the other girls you won, then you lose." At first I was like why would someone want everyone to know they are being cheated on? But think about how loaded that statement is with what is the equivalent of DHV for the woman. Not only is she with a guy who is desirable to multiple women, but SHE has the ability to keep the man for herself at the end of the day if she wants. Therefore SHE must be very desirable too.

It has nothing to do with calling the dude out for cheating, or even serving as moral support and advice to women in that situation. Those types of posts are simply a form of bragging to demonstrate preselection for the woman who posts it.

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Um no....lol. You read that 100% wrong.

Pretty much this. Once, girls see that I am approachable, the walls come tumbling down.

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