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Thanks for the info Tripp but I am still a little in the dark as far as escalating. Say I isolated than said in an alluring/sexual tone "After we're done here, we should go kick it back at your place", then, depending on her answer either kiss or say something "Oh I get it, _____ is more important than me." In a cf way. I would appreciate your thoughts on that example as well as some other, more specific pointers for escalating. Thanks a lot.
Hey man. Ok, first of all, when you think of escalation, think of constantly pushing further than where you are. I'm sure you know that, but still wanted to point it out. You are literally looking for her to either tell you to stop or physically let you know you've gone too far, then you back up just a bit. But you need to find that line. Ok, now, once you've isolated yes that would be a good thing to say, as long as you're not scared to say it. What I mean is, don't be afraid to speak the words, but be confident about it. so she knows you mean it. With that said, yes, that phrase would work just fine. Then, if she says yes, lay the kiss on her, and make it a GOOD one, so she's EAGER to leave. But, also don't just keep kissing and kissing and kissing at that point either. In fact, kiss her one time really good, then pull back just a bit and make her move her head forward to meet your lips again if she wants more. Make her eager for more of a kiss from you. And, she'll become more eager to leave with you then too. Now, on saying "w/e is more important", that would work too, if you also SLIGHTLY physically push her away while you say it too. Or, if you really want to send her a mixed signal, and yes it's counterintuitive, SLIGHTLY pull her to you if she says no and at the same time say, "fine get away from me then" with a smile and solid EC.
If you are having trouble escalating, as I said, keep in mind that it's pushing further than where you currently are, and one big factor in that is the mixed signals, especially if nothing else is working for you right now. Use the counterintuitive example I gave above and get creative at other times with doing the same type of thing. A verbal push with a physical pull or a verbal pull with a physical push.