Got out of LTR and feel like I've lost my soulmate



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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 10:20 am 
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Just feel totally broken. Was with this girl for six years on and off. She cheated and weirdly it didn't make a difference after some time had passed. My only fear was not wanting to be with her but that I was not good enough. Whenever I felt like the number 1 for her as she was for me, other dicks didn't matter. I've spent some of the best years of my life with her. We were so close that we were able to drive each other forward. She was so sensual, shy intelligent, we had similar personalities, similar brains, similar past, careers the same, everything was compatible. She oozed sexuality, every part of her appearance was deliberate. When she felt something she could find a song to express exactly how she felt. She was beyond beautiful; small perfect body, olive skin, brown eyes, huge lips and mouth, french accent, perfect skin, massive natural ass with a small waist. She was so sexual. She had sex with her girlfriends. Our sex was incredible. She watched porn, she fantasied in the craziest ways, she said she'd try anything once.

I don't know where I am ever going to replace her. She made me drive forward into a place were I never knew my mind could get to. So much motivation life was easy.

She was a good person and a truly beautiful person.

I'm broken. I feel like there's nothing I can ever do to replace her. That's as good as it gets and my own weakness let it go. Now she refuses to have any contact with me. I am ok for a few months then I break down. I don't know what the fuck to do. I'm seeing other people but i feel like I don't see them, like they are just scratching the surface of my soul and I'm locked in ice.

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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 11:50 am 
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It's sad when a person defines themselves through someone else.

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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 12:59 pm 
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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 3:48 pm 
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So I need to find my own identity. In my experience PUA is the best therapy for men in the history of the world.

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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 4:59 pm 
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It's sad when a person defines themselves through someone else.
I'm not defined through someone else. I'm very definitely myself; I like to work hard play hard, I keep things simple, I like to be motivated, sex gives me that motivation, fuck at night keeps me happy. But when you have someone that understands that completely and shares it. Loves life, has gratitude for everything they have, sees things in the same way. Dude it's incredible. I'm not going to change or compromise, but this is fucking difficult. Oh and holiday to enjoy every so often.

You are a battery and the play recharges you for the work. I enjoy the work because it's achievement. If I do something difficult, that needs a lot of motivation, I feel good. I'm totally open minded about sex and believe there is a difference between emotional monogamy and sexual attraction/desires/fantasy.

Finding someone similar to you is not the same as finding some to define yourself through. But I hadn't really established my adult persona/identity outside her.

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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 5:03 pm 
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So I need to find my own identity. In my experience PUA is the best therapy for men in the history of the world.
PUA? Naw, But fucking plenty of outer women sure is.

You'll find through abundance, she isn't special. She isn't now, and she never was.

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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 6:07 pm 
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So I need to find my own identity. In my experience PUA is the best therapy for men in the history of the world.
PUA? Naw, But fucking plenty of outer women sure is.

You'll find through abundance, she isn't special. She isn't now, and she never was.
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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 6:24 pm 
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You can train other girls to be how she was sexually by leading them. I only date bisexual women, so eventually she'll bring new women home on occasion. Find your type, and lead.

Why did she dump you? Getting feedback on that, and why she won't talk to you might help you prevent getting dumped in the future.

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Getting feedback on that, and why she won't talk to you might help you prevent getting dumped in the future.
Too soon.....

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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 8:32 pm 
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Why did she dump you? Getting feedback on that, and why she won't talk to you might help you prevent getting dumped in the future.
Yeah. The OP should contact her and ask for feedback. What can possibly go wrong?


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PostPosted: Mon May 22, 2017 8:38 pm 
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Huh?

I'm not advocating for the OP to contact her right now. I'm asking him to explain why he thinks he was dumped so the forum can offer him feedback.

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It's sad when a person defines themselves through someone else.
I'm not defined through someone else. I'm very definitely myself; I like to work hard play hard, I keep things simple, I like to be motivated, sex gives me that motivation, fuck at night keeps me happy. But when you have someone that understands that completely and shares it. Loves life, has gratitude for everything they have, sees things in the same way. Dude it's incredible. I'm not going to change or compromise, but this is fucking difficult. Oh and holiday to enjoy every so often.

You are a battery and the play recharges you for the work. I enjoy the work because it's achievement. If I do something difficult, that needs a lot of motivation, I feel good. I'm totally open minded about sex and believe there is a difference between emotional monogamy and sexual attraction/desires/fantasy.

Finding someone similar to you is not the same as finding some to define yourself through. But I hadn't really established my adult persona/identity outside her.
OP, you have made my point.

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Huh?

I'm not advocating for the OP to contact her right now. I'm asking him to explain why he thinks he was dumped so the forum can offer him feedback.
He has told the forum why he was dumped.
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My only fear was not wanting to be with her but that I was not good enough. Whenever I felt like the number 1 for her as she was for me, other dicks didn't matter.
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I feel like there's nothing I can ever do to replace her.
He's needy and he's put her above him when he describes the value of the two of them in the relationship. A woman CANNOT respect a man if she feels like she is better than him.

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This was always my biggest fear. That I'd actually get the perfect ten. The unicorn. She'd have a cute face, tiny waist and a big behind...as well as being bisexual. She'd watch football and laugh at all my jokes. We'd get along famously and I'd wear her on my arm as the trophy she rightfully is. We'd have sex a thousand and one times. But nothing lasts forever and one day it would all be a thing of the past. I'd realistically never get anything as good as that again and I'd be stuck in a mental funk of regret and nostalgia.

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PostPosted: Tue May 23, 2017 10:15 am 
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That's very closed minded thinking. Every relationship is unique. And if every relationship is unique, no relationship is unique.

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