Hi !

I'm a city bus driver in my 40's and as all bus drivers, I see lots of beautiful ladies. Problem is, we have only few seconds to react and I was never good in pick up game... I was married long time, now divorced and it's not easy to meet someone, specialy not in a bus.

There is a beautiful lady that takes often my bus, she looks littlebit shy, says hi, gives me a beautiful smile and goes to take a seat, often at the end of the bus (I cannot chat with her). But at the end, she will come back, she will not take back door, she will say goodby, give me a smile and that's it... How to procede with her? I was thinking maybe to give her a paper on her way out with my phone number and short explanation "why her", but I don't know how smart (or stupid...) is that... Do you have some other ideas?

I will appreciate any help and thanks in advance!

Slip her a note.

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Flirt with her. Tell her "There's my favorite passenger." Find out her name. Tell her yours. Get on a name calling basis with her. Find out where she is going, like is it for work or school, or home or whatever. Even only one or two sentence per encounter, that builds up over time and you can really establish good rapport with someone.

I would strongly advise against the note. It's creepy, it telegraphs intent, its inappropriate for a person in your line of work to do that. I mean what's she going to do, write you a note back?! It's just not a good idea.

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I think passing a note is more likely to work if you've already chatted with her a few times and she seems comfortable with you. Then a note might be cute. I got the impression you already had.

So now I do have to agree with the other posters that a note out of the blue with your phone number might seem a little strange. Best to strike up a conversation 1st. Gotta flirt, my friend.

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Hey, guys, I really appreciate your help ! But as I said, chance to meet her and to know her name are slim... And I still have one more month, after that we change our schedule and I will not see her again ...

I will try to say few words to her, I will probably say something really stupid haha (I drive a bus; but I'm really educated guy and I can easily talk about nuclear physics, but small talk, I hate it...) but wth, worst thing that can happen is she will not be interested and that's it...

Maybe she's anxiously waiting for you to say......anything.

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Maybe... You know what's funny? I was with fairly good number of woman before I got married and after my divorce, but when I think now about it, I have no idea how... How in the hell I came to them?! What have I done?! I have no idea... It just happened... And every time I wanted consiously to approach someone, I failed... I say wrong thing or I don't know what to say, it becomes awkward, I wait to long to make a move or I'm too fast, I don't ask for phone, all those things...

Littlebit too old to learn proper game now...

Never...

Here is your opening; "There she is." And smile.

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If you really want to talk to this girl, you have to give yourself the permission to get out of your "bus driver"
mode and talk to her like a guy with a girl.

Permission is the name of the game. Can you give yourself the permission to talk to her?

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10 thumbs up for this one - excellent advice. It would have been exactly how I would have responded to your post. Find out her name if you can - and then use it every time you see her. People love hearing their name and it gets their attention. Give her a compliment or two without sounding creepy or desperate - i.e. with a litle bit of enthusiasm "Theirs Julie - my favourite customer" or "You look nice today Julie" etc etc. YOu will soon be able to read if she is interested or not. Wont be too hard to figure out.

Down the track after you start talking to her, try and find out what her interests are - ask her what she has planned for the weekend (when it is close to the weekend). Then you can probably gauge if you are well suited as well i.e. if what she does during the weekend is going to the opera and painting pictures and what you do is go to football games and to the pub then you will probably lose interest in her as you realise you are complete opposites.

You only have a limited time to work with so you will have to take action sooner rather than later. Good luck - I hope it all goes well for you.

Tbh, the note sounds best. Yes, its cheesy, yes it shows interest...but you have a serious time limitation. You drive the bus. This chick goes to the back of the bus. You're limited to about a sentence, max 2 every time you see her. Not much to do anything, especially with people filing into the bus behind her. If she sat right behind you, sure, in traffic you could lean back and start something. If the chick is just swiping her metrocard and walking on, nah.... This is a time where you need to be direct, the note is cute. Either she's interested at this point or not. A sentence is all you'll prob get, unless she starts sitting behind you, or the bus is empty. Maybe you could do the name thing and joke with her to sit behind you and then work from there. But if all you're gonna get is a sentence a day, if even that, be direct. The less time you have the more likely you'll have to be direct. And with her swiping a card and sitting in the back every day, you just dont have time to be friendly and then make a move anyway.

As an aside, I have a bus driver routine for when girls ask what you do for a living.

"I'm a shortbus driver."

"Yea, I wanna change jobs though. I'm tired of cleaning up after all the window lickers."

"Hopefully one day I'll get to pursue my REAL calling in life: Lunchlady-man."

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Few good ideas, thanks guys ! But what to do when you see a beautiful woman for a first and probably last time in your bus? And you have only few seconds to do something... Is it hopeless or something can be done? How you will react? Are there some effective openers for those types of situations (short, sweet punch...)?

That's longshot pickup dude. And no offense, but certain jobs are considered low value in a woman's eyes, and bus driver is one of them. That's not the time and place to be gaming women.

However, have you ever seen one of those crazy employees who is like super animated and loud, borderline inappropriate and unprofessional, yet very likeable and funny? If you can be THAT guy, then you can win her over in a short period of time with charm and personality and acting like you don't give a fuck. Aside from that, I don't think all the notes in the world will ever land you a date.

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Do you have a card?

Get a card.

The next time she exits the bus, stop her and say "hey, I don't have but a few second here's, but i'd like to kick it with you off the bus. How about you take my card and give me a call?"

You do that right, and there's no way she's saying no. Just be bold and sure of yourself when you do it.

However, there's more women in more optimal circumstances than just the ones on your bus. How about you take all of your attention off this one girl and get out there a bit more?

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