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I met a wonderful girl we dated for months. We loved each other. After a little over a year marriage became a part of our conversation. We chatted, but then stopped seeing each other. Stopped responding to each others text messages. Until finally we don't do a thing at all. I finally break up with her and like two weeks later she gets pregnant by someone else. Right after breaking up I knew I had done the wrong thing. In fact, I felt compelled to go buy a ring. I bought her flowers, and gifts to make things right. However, she didn't respond, and followed through on the pregnancy throwing away our two year relationship. She normally doesn't act so irrational. She has a PhD. I think she had a nervous breakdown. We were sexually active throughout our relationship, and had our fair share of near emergencies. However, we wanted to wait for marriage. In any event, now she starts talking about hating her new guy friend, and wanting me to come back. I love the girl unconditionally. I wanted her to get an abortion. In the end, we talk from time to time. I wouldn't want to touch her unless she was ready to fuck me again, and wear a ring finally. I'm through with this shit. I finally want to get married, and have my own kids.
Why do some people believe that marriage will answer all their problems?
You can't BUY or give things out of a nervous, needy energy to make right. That is naive. At the end of the day giving 'things' won't keep a relationship afloat, or help navigate it to safe haven. I don't think she's being irrational, she's likely being more realistic about the future of things with you. You're so eager to 'put a ring on it', and yet so deaf to her her needs - "wouldn't want to touch her unless she was ready to fuck me again, and wear a ring finally" you don't see anything wrong with this?!?
I wonder if she feels she'd ever had a voice in this relationship, beyond all your hollow gestures designed to satiate your own ego.
Find / work on building a stable 'house' first before you start adding the furniture and decor.