So I was on a one week trial membership at my local gym. I try to talk to attractive women there if I can because I would like to meet someone that is into fitness like me. Well, yesterday a woman who was very good looking caught my eye, I wasn't going to talk to her but finally after mustering up the courage I decided to give it a shot. So I got on one of those bikes near where she was doing hand stands and then worked my way over near her and asked a very indirect question, "hey is that a crossfit workout?". She said, "no I just mess around and do handstands after my workouts." I told her, "oh ok, I saw you doing the seated squats earlier so I figured you must do crossfit." I told her I was new to the gym and we talked about excercises and just super platonic and harmless topics. Well I start doing bicycle crunches and those hanging leg lifts and leave her alone for a few minutes. I remember todd valentine said something about hot women having instant knee jerk rejection reflexes and that sometimes you need to stick it out so I reengaged her again and asked if she usually works out in the afternoon. She said no she usually works out very early like 5 am and she is a student blah blah blah. Well, I go back to my crunches and before I leave I say bye and it was nice to meet her. Well Today I was about to join the gym until the staff told me that I need to be aware before joining that I am making some of the members uncomfortable. (Gee, I wonder who could have reported me). The staff member said that when people come to workout they generally just want to get their exercise in and don't want to socialize blah blah blah. So I decided not to join this gym. What are your thoughts on this whole thing? Where do you think I went wrong? You think that I should have just made the interaction short and sweet and not reengage a second time? This is why I and many other men have approach anxiety, it's because of shit just like this! Being single really sux cock.

TLDR;
I see a very attractive woman at my gym

I introduce myself and have a friendly and harmless conversation

I reengage her a second time because todd valentine said that sometimes ignoring a woman's negative/neautral reactions to you can seem like a high value trait.

Before I leave I say bye and that it was nice to meet her.

Today I am now having a conversation with the gym staff that i'm making a member feel uncomfortable.

I decide not to join the gym

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Are you doing real approaches? Maybe that's where the aa comes from

The gym isn't a place to really meet women, if they are inviting yes otherwise it's kind of invasive and many gym rats have a rigorous schedule and no time to waste. It really isn't, outside the gym yes, during you're interrupting.

The only time you should walk up to girls at the gym is if they've given repeated interest via signals and seem to be inviting you over.

People go to the gym to work out, that's the truth not to meet people. If they want to be talked to they'll make it obvious.

If you want to meet fit girls go to fitness classes where socializing is normal. Go to Yoga, go to dance lessons, go to GNC or a another type of retail environment.

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The only thing wrong I see here is you saying something about seeing her earlier doing some exercise. women hate being watched. never say you saw them do something, it implies you were watching them. Even if it's a compliment "you dance very nice" implies you were watching her.

or maybe you were just giving off creepy vibes, like this guy:
https://youtu.be/K889MqM30bM?t=30s

people at the gym are all antisocial, don't bother.

I don't know what you mean by, "real approaches". Is approaching someone at the gym not real?

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Agree with poet

By real approaches I meant bar or club. A gym doesn't have the volume of women to approach to get rid of AA. You get better with AA from numerous real approaches ie approaching a stranger or group. Maybe real was a bad term for it. My point is asking a couple chicks at the gym their workout routine isn't going to help AA

Yea, i've approached women at the bar. It's usually a brief conversation and they just want to get back to their friends asap.

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You creeped her out. It's that simple.

How was her body language?

A girl who is interested in the conversation will turn toward you, have a relaxed posture, and gesticulate with their hands. one who does not want to talk to you will lean away, turn away, cross her arms, start talking or texting on their phone, walk in a different direction, or sidle away, witch it seems she did on both the first and second try. Basically, if they look closed off or are sidling away like they want to escape, they're not comfortable. The third attempt sent her over the edge.

Also how was YOURS? Did her Ass, Tits, or Camel keep looking at your eyeballs?

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Haha, yea i'm not going to disagree with you. Like I said, Usually will piss off pretty quick if I get negative vibes from a woman but I just wanted to try something different and stick her negative vibes up my ass this time. Obviously it didn't work out too well.

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Don't creep on girls at the gym, it's bad wojo karma. Save creeper mode for the low budget clubs ($1 draft night). Look for girl that's three hours in, to much product in her hair, leggings pulled up to heaven, and just a hint of back fat oozing out from the straps on her wonder bra.

Say anything you like to this girl, she'll still get in the cab.

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Don't be that guy OP. Leave women at the gym alone. They're on high defense because every other chump tries to give her advice and her into her pants.

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Disagree with all of this "don't talk to women at the gym unless they overtly show interest" stuff. But yeah if a girl responds badly just tell her politely to have a nice day and leave. Hell that goes for any environment.

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Where are you seeing that?

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Yeah dude, at the gym you're supposed to have some jokes in the back of your mind to tell girls when they come drink water and you're using the thing. Use those opportunitys to show her that your diferent. Seriously, looking her in the eye and talking firmly, not really being funny but doing this, usually changes womens attitudes towards me.

I agree with all of the advice here. The gym is for working out. I can't stand it when women approach me there (my gym is the most expensive in town, sadly, so it's mostly cougars and a bunch of guys. I'm looking to switch ASAP).

HOWEVER, if a girl just keeps staring you down and giving you big time IOI, then yeah, definitely approach.

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