Hi,

Long time no see

Well... this is the first time I encounter a Bipolar Girl.

We started dating 2 months ago and met her in Carnival... We had drunk sex at her place and at a motel in our first two encounters the same day.

I really liked her personality and she's hot also...

Well we started bonding and talking everyday etc etc... went to the gym together went out every weekend got drunk... you know... That awesome kind of relationship.

We never confirmed to anyone we were a couple.

Last weekend I traveled with a group of friends and traveled with her.... thats when things got fucked.

First time at the cabin she went elsewhere without telling me... O got jealous and mad...

Next day she got jealous and acted like a bitch with me.

Next morning she acted all caring and said she liked in front of people etc...

NOW...


This week things slowed down... we hardly text... SHE told me to take it slow. I perceived she didnt give a fuck anymore and indeed as soon as I stopped texting contact her... no said anything anymore.

I told her we should meet today just to set things straight... You know leave or stay.

And as I write this I'm realizing I'm just reacting to her now.

I think I'll tell her I'm not putting up with it... and for sure we'll cut things up....

It hurts me now even before doing it but this is not healthy for me anymore.

Any comments?

Kind regards fellas

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Does there need to be now that you realize that it's not healthy?

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Why would you do that?

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Her.

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How to keep a girl.

You have to stay emotionally-centered. Two months is nothing.

And never having the exclusive talks means you aren't exclusive.

Translation: "You're acting needy, I need space".

Vacations can be a real game-changer for couples. You learn that you can stand the other person in your space all the time, or not.

This has happened to me, where I was sick of the girl or she I because of days of close proximity. The fix? Pull back. It's okay if she doesn't text you for a couple days, because you're not in a committed relationship with her.

Overreacting and emotionally-uncentered. She told you to stop being so clingy, you wanted "the talk". These are two people seeing the relationship in two different ways. she wants you to take it slower, and your fear of losing her (you want control) is to give an emotional ultimatum.


Where does the bipolar part come in? sounds like a woman who was/is turned off by clingy behavior.

You will find that the more attractive and intelligent a woman, the less she will tolerate needy men.

Early on, it's important to pay attention to the fun/negative emotion ratio. If you start texting a lot of negative emotion, you're fucked. Texting her to "have the talk" falls into that category.

If you want to keep her, learn to control your emotions, and learn how to give a woman space.

As men, we get neurotic and always tinker with the gears, when MOST of the time, there's simply nothing wrong. Stop texting her as much. Give her space. Let things unfold organically.

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Well... everything you say makes sense...

I couldn't help myself really... last night we had the talk... and she told me that she wasn't prepared por it and felt weird about "it" so that she behaved stupidly and erratically.

My translation for this is... I demonstrated to be too much into her and got bored.

Wisdom for the next one, don't give too many about her. Everything was well until that moment

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Yeah, that's what happens when we let our emotions control us. It's being emotionally-uncentered. Deep breaths, a good book, working out, and THINKING before texting are remedies until you train yourself to handle it better.

Take a sticky note and write this on it: "Is this an emotional text? Is it negative, or fun?" and stick it to your phone.
Yep.
It's not over. Pull back and stop texting her (I call this a "needy cleanse") and in the future learn to control your emotions with the techniques I outlined.

Pay attention to how often you text her, and how long your texts are, too. Text like a man that has three naked women in his bed:

"Cool, sounds good. Talk to you later."

not,

"Why won't you respond? What's going on, we need to talk."

etc.

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OK so... we go to the same gym. So it is very likely well be seeing each other.

Last night we met casually and crossed a few words... she appeared in front of me constantly...

In the end she asked if it was OK for her to take the stationary bike beside... we did not talk either and I just finished and left.

No texts or anything. I think I confused her for something more than a casual hookup.

Which was my initial intention fuck jaja

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Being serious with or about a chick is not the same thing as being a clingy jealous guy. Whether she was a fwb, your gf or your wife, if you go travelling with her and she does her own thing, you shouldnt be getting mad and jealous. That's BEING NEEDY, nothing to do with BEING SERIOUS. I say this because if you mistake being serious with not giving healthy space, you'll just get mad when your actual gf does the same thing and be left wondering why its getting the same result. Whether this was more than a casual hookup or not, let the chick go off if she wants to do something else.