Hello everyone, I will begin with some information... I am fit guy from Eastern Europe, somewhat good looking, intelligent and it happens that I communicate with girls often.
Now to the essential matter... I do talk to different girls quite often but lately every single conversation is boring... The conversation lasts a few minutes and it is something extremely boring. At first in from of myself I was blaming the girls that they were boring not me, but it happens in almost every conversation I have with a girl... Can anyone advice me on something to read or to start improving at?
Thanks in advance, every criticism will be appreciated!

Dude, it is important to, not necessarily psyche yourself up, but to think about go to jokes you will use in common social situations with women. Also, think about funny teasy stuff to say to girls when you pass them (before). By making up your own routines you will become better at this crap.

Women are mirrors. If they're acting bored on a mass level it's because they are reflecting that energy. If 1 in 10 were acting bored that would most likely be an aberration.

You have to ask yourself, why am I speaking with these women? Is it just for the amusement of it, do you only want their #, or do you want to get with them. If it's the last one, then that should be all the motivation you need to have the proper socially calibrated sexual energy when speaking with them. And the best part is, they'll mirror that shit right back to you.

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is your mindset man, are you having problems with your life? maybe depression

More or less this, but I think it's the best answer given your limited info OP.

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Learn what's the girl wants/needs then you can make a good subject from it and that will fit for you both and then make the conversation with passion, Happiness and Love.

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oceanx's point about sexual energy and intent is spot-on, but you probably also need to lift your banter game and provide some spark and excitement that is sorely missing. You might be too scared of crossing the line that you don't even come close to reaching it - becoming forgettable due to a neutral and "safe" tone, instead of taking risks and making an impression that separates you from others. And when you draw them into that world, the girls will make more of an effort to keep you, and provide interesting conversation, which takes the burden off your shoulders and lessens the chance of things veering into boring territory.

If you're stuck for ideas, or not a naturally spontaneous person already, forcefully increase the energy and use routines until you become more creative and resourceful (which means you can eventually relax and being more comfortable with the new version of yourself).

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I just posted this to another forum member asking about maintaining conversation. Seems like it can help you aswell. -

The focus shouldn't be on thinking of questions and topics. The focus should really be on feeling the girl out. Seeing if you even like her or not. If shes worth your time. Because you've made the approach, you're the leader, and you're the one that asserted yourself into a position for you guys to even have a conversation, it is about YOU. Not about her just yet.

Guys that don't know what to say to women are guys that do not know what they want. I have a plethora of things to say because I have to SCREEN women to see if they are good fits. Whether that be, A good fit for a one night stand and/or a good fit for a potential relationship. If you're out looking for a one night stand do you really want to spend 30 mins talking to some girl who's probably not up for it? Wouldn't you rather spend that 30 with a girl that could serve your agenda for the night?

Example: Lets say you're looking for a One Night Stand - Questions you should be asking are:

1) Where are you from/where do you live (To see if she lives here, if she's visiting)

2) Who did you come out here with tonight? (To see if she'll be leaving people behind to go with you)

2a) This could then transition into you asking questions about her friends. I.E "Are they from here to? How did you guys meet? How long have you been friends etc.) - None of my example have to be copied by the way; this is just to give you an idea.

3) You can ask about her club experience, how often she goes out, whether she's a party girl, ask her about the best night of her life and what happen

By the time you cover all of this the conversation will began to have flowed naturally. Thats when you can figure out escalation, and where you plan on taking her in the event that things continue to go smoothly.

Now if she gives you a response that lets you know that she can't be your one night stand (She's the designated driver for her drunk friends), go for the number and EJECT. When you have a goal, conversation will flow easily; just spend the time on people who can serve your goal.

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