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Some say to flirt with her sexually, but as R.C. stated she has made it clear she doesn't see me that way. Honestly I think she'd just get freaked out and shut down even more
Look, sexual and playful flirting with women should be your default state. If you'd have done so even with her, from the beginning, you could still have been friends but it would
not have been platonic. She would've expected something to happen, at some point, and would've perceived you in a sexual light.
After "spilling your guts" and not making a move when the opportunity presented itself, that option is no longer available. Kicking a dead worse won't bring it back to life, but it will cost your mental sanity. And dignity.
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Like I said all advice is appreciated but I'm unsure what my next course of action is now. I think the problem is she just doesn't see me as a sexual person and that's an issue w/ a lot of people even my male friends. Numerous times I've had them assuming I'm a virgin. While yeah I haven't had many it's simply a case of I don't brag
You don't have to brag for people to know you're the type of guy that does well or not with women. And bragging doesn't imply people will believe you do in fact do well with women. Most times it's quite the opposite.
It's more to do with the way you express yourself and behave in the presence of girls.
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So at this stage the only thing I can think of doing is what was in the back of my mind when I first posted. Back away. Stop being at her beck and call all the time like some fucking valet. Unless she's at deaths door sort out your own problems. In the meantime when the topic of sex comes up w/ the class I'll simply contribute.
Good.
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Try and change her perception of me. All the while reminding her I'm still interested with subtle flirting. A compliment here a touch there
Instead of trying to change her perception of you, why don't you work on improving your ability to self express? That is, after all, what causes how people perceive you.
And compliments are not something you should be slinging around. If I truly compliment a woman, in most cases she's already my girlfriend. The other rare occurrences are where I'm
genuinely impressed by something they've done/said, so it's not even looks related, and doesn't happen often.
Either way if your compliment is a tool for trying to get her to like you, or has any sort of hidden agenda attached, don't do it. It will have the opposite effect.
Infact, if I walk up to a coworker and tell her she's looking beautiful today, 9/10 times they'll roll their eyes thinking I'm being sarcastic and playfully insulting them.
That's teasing.
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Hopefully by the time that final party in 2 weeks occurs, when she gets drunk and horny again - which she will - I'll stand some chance
Or I'm buying into this Hollywood fantasy that R.C. mentioned again and I'll crash and burn
The fundamental issue here is that you don't have other options. If you did, then whatever. But you don't, so this isn't just a "whatever happens happens" scenario. You're investing in this. And you'll be affected if nothing comes of it just like you were when you went to her place and hoped she'll invite you in bed.
Expand your horizons and talk to more women.
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, but without making up stories. She was my biggest dream, and thus mission impossible). We were such friends that I may think she sometimes felt sorry for me (not sure if explain it precisely but when a girl feels sorry for you, it's a terrible thing). I wasn't a poor guy without girls (sometimes even that), but I just couldn't have her (she was out of my league).