Met a woman online (35 years old). We started writing. She didn't want to reveal her name and was real secretive. We wrote every evening, and eventually we started to talk online. We talked 2-6 hours every night (yea, not kidding) for like a month. She lives a 6 hours drive from me, i visited. We spend four nights together, had sex the second night. We had a very civil tone. The last night she said that it felt like friendship. I left the next morning. I said that if she was interested in more, she should contact me. That's six days ago now. Haven't heard anything and I have not contacted her.

I know she is kind of lonely. She lives alone in a big house all by herself. She lost her job in the autumn because of a crisis in the local oil business. She is kind of introvert and not very social, but have som few close friends.

The reason she blew me off was because I stayed there too long. I also became too much of a friend. A bit soft i guess. My plan is to wait a month or so before I contact here. Can this be salvaged? How should i recindle this?

It's time to move on.

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And you base your answer on....?

There is no point moving on just yet, her interest level is stil in the 50s (out of a hundred). We had a good connection, I just stayed too long in her house and she became bord. If I wait like 30-40 days or something, we can pic it up again because then she will have had the time to miss me. To just "move on" is a very simplistic approach.

It ain't rocket science.

So your options are very low?

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Well. The way I see it, I have three options...

1. Contact her now. Bad idea. I told her to contact me. The ball is in her corner.
2. Wait like 40 days, and then contact her (if she's not contacted me meanwhile). She will have missed me, because we had a good tone. She will be curious of why she haven't heard from me. And any negative thoughts will have had time to disintegrate.
3. Never contact her. Aka never hear from her again if she's not contacting me.

The main problem here is that we live so far a part.

My problem was that I came under her house in her town under her rules. It made me the sidekick in her life for five hole days. She lost the attraction. If I keep my distant for a while, things can be salvaged...

A clean sanitary flush is recommended.

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The fact that you even consider waiting 40 days for the same women is the very problem. What man that has options would do that?

She didn't lose attraction because you went "under her house and rules". You acted that way.

Either way she said she sees it as friendship. Meaning there's no passion. Meaning, it's over. There's nothing simplistic about people telling you to stop kicking a dead horse. It won't come back to life.

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Move on.

Sex may have been bad on her end. Also, you live 6 hours apart. What do you expect out of this? The chick met you and after the first meeting she was done. Sucks, but waiting 40 days isnt going to change it.

Let's say you saw a car on the road that you liked, so you went down to the dealership to check it out. The salesman allowed you to test drive the car and after the test drive you didn't like the interior and how it handled on the road. Because of this, you decide against buying the car. Do you think the salesman can call you back in about a month to convince you to buy that car?

This is the same thing. She's made her decision about you because of how she felt when she was around you. You aren't going to be able to do anything to change her mind in any direct way. She's not in her 50's about you and if being in her presence for just a few day and she chose loneliness over you, that says a lot.

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Lol, is he really waiting 40 days to hopefully drive 6 hours again? Man, this is a no option situation.

lolz.


What do you do in your life beside chasing women? What does your average day consists of? Like what do you do really (activities, routines, etc.) that you have so much excessive time thinking about one girl?


I know for a fact that women sense when she's your only "THING" in life. Do something with your life first so she WANTS to be part of it. Not the other way around.

Move on. Really.

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Well thanks a lot.

I had a f... question, and the shit hits the fan. It's a simple fucking approach. I do nothing toward this woman for a month or so, and then I give her a call.

I have other things to do in the meantime by the way. I do have a fucking job, i do exercise, i do have hobbies and a social life. And i don't spend hours on end on chatrooms holding my dick...

You also can't take advice/criticism without being salty? What are you? mentally 14?

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LMAO...If it were that simple you wouldn't be here. You know that plan is shit, right? If you wait a month after having sex with a woman to contact her again and you haven't heard from you...she's demonstrating that she has absolutely no interest. Don't get mad at the world for telling you the truth.

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Was it really worth asking a question if you're unwilling to listen to the answers?

You already knew what you were going to do and you were looking for approval by someone else. But as you didn't get the answer you wanted, you throw a tantrum and insult the very people you're seeking approval from? Seems pointless.