About three months ago I met a girl over Facebook and we hit it off quickly, acted very interested then basically fell off the face of the earth all of a sudden ignoring my messages, making excuses why she couldn't hang out. No contact from there on out.

Fast forward to two weeks ago, I get a random message from her apologizing for blowing me off (said she's sorry and will make it up to me), once again tons of texting, calling, FaceTimed (she's finishing college in another city), great conversation for two or three days after (she was constantly telling me she can't wait to see me and thinks we will hit it off well this summer), and even arranged a date beginning of next month as soon as she returns home. This date will require tickets for me to purchase soon before it sells out which honestly makes this whole situation more complicated-not that I'm worried about money.. That was last week.

For this past week, she hasn't reached out at all, and if she does she sends me one word texts and has acted very cold towards me and aloof like she did months ago. If she does say something (rare) it's something about her day, but usually ignores anything I say back to her. She's showed zero interest in the past week towards me..Last night tried calling her for once-obviously she ignored it...I finally couldn't take it and basically sent her a text before bed (weak I know) saying I give up on this and I don't think it will work between us (I'm tired of girls playing games), and she called me back right away all defensive saying she's been busy with work all week and she works 12 hour days then goes right to bed, and that she doesn't play games, and she's confused where I'm getting that from then proceeded to say she's going to bed...she seemed very defensive and ticked off.

This past week since her change in behavior, I haven't chased her at all, but it's left me very confused and think from here on out I'm going NC and forgetting her and our date we have planned and not buy the tickets. Do you think her defensive behavior is an excuse? Can you really be THAT busy? I realize she's finishing up school and working so I know she's busy but it just seems odd she had the nerve to call me and make excuses for herself...I mean she hasn't had time in the past week to send one 30 second text showing any kind of interest? I guess this is more of a vent post, I know what I need to do, but would like some feedback. Should I give her the benefit of the doubt and see if she changes? Time to game more women I guess.

Btw no indication she has another guy but she's a solid 10 for sure

don't text her again, seems to me she likes you but not enough, and she called you right away after the text because she doesn't like you enough but she wants to keep you beside her so she can text you call you whenever she wants and you will be there. don't text her or call her, and get another girl, if she wants you she will look for you, or may be not.

Looking for dick.
Her finding some not your dick.
Her running low on dick again.
Her getting a not your dick refill.

See the pattern?

Your windows of opportunity close quickly with hotter girls.

They may or may not reopen.

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I have no idea why you'd plan a date involving purchasing tickets for a chick from the Internet who is not even in your city for another month. If you can't see the chick for a month, that's the kind of situation where you lay back pursue more immediate options and keep her on the back burner. You chat now and then and when she's in the city you hit her up. Sorry but you were way too serious about an online chick and a meeting that was a month away.

On a side note... If a chick ever says she's gonna make something up to you use that to make your life easier. OK...when you get to the city you're cooking me dinner. If you had not treated texting long distance with a stranger so seriously...she probably would have fallen off and when she's back home in a month hit you up with "I'm sorry for being busy past weeks when came I come cook than dinner for you?"

Thanks for the response...I know I was too invested, but it was hard not getting wrapped up in all her attention she was giving me especially since I was so attracted to her. Clearly she's just playing games or was just looking for some sort of attention so I'm going to forget it-not my problem at this point. Another lesson learned. Thanks again.

Why are you paying for concert tickets for a woman who's never done a good thing for you?

You acted like a bitch, but it's a good sign she called back all freaked out.

Pull back and don't contact her for a while, and game other women. When she is back in town, text her this:

"Let's do drinks at Bar X, 9pm."

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