Today I was messaging a chick on tinder. I had sent her three messages and she laughed a LOT and responded within a minute to each of them. So I figured I'd ask for her number. Then she says "Lol that was quick". I say "nah", and she responded a few hours later "lol no?".

This happens to me semi frequently, where she puts in some resistance to giving out her number so fast. Normally, I'd say the best answer is to ignore her and move on to the next chick. However, sometimes, the chick is particularly hot and seems like she might be the whole package (nice job, intelligent, etc etc). So for those chicks, who I don't want to ignore and say next, what's the best way to handle the situation when you ask for her number too soon?

For this specific chick, I'm thinking that I will wait several days before messaging her again and changing the subject. Get her laughing at my jokes. Send her 3 or 4 messages and ask for her number again. If she says no, then at that point ignore her and move on.

For the future, to avoid this situation entirely, I'm going to go the safer route with particularly hot chicks and message them more than 3 times before asking for their number, avoiding the situation entirely. But it seems like a lot of people on this forum are against that (because you might bore the girl and also end up wasting your own time) and insist that most women are willing to give out their number within 2-3 messages.

It was quick.

You don't need to wait days, you just need to get a conversation going, build a connection and then get her number. 3 messages is not that.

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You need to get some familiarity with her. Some. Not a lot but enough to show her your personality and that you're a cool, non needy guy.

3 messages isn't enough to convey that.

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It depends what you are looking for. Women that want to fuck will usually give out their number sooner vs later. Personally I would not waste my time, the truth of the matter is that she has likely give her number out to another guy rather soon (just not you). If a woman rejects your advances then you are fighting an up hill battle because she will strive to be consistent.

If you do not take my advice above then I have two possible recommendations:

1. Ask her for he snap chat, and after chatting on there get her number.
2. State your intentions and then ask for hers.