Okay ... so I just broke off a 7 year relationship and am trying to get back into the swing of things. I have spent the last 2 months since the breakup working out to get into shape. Other then the weight ... I have never had a problem getting conversations going ... it's getting to the close that needs major work done. I have already been on dates with three since the break up.

The first was a disaster ... I wasn't really ready to be with another woman. The second was my slump buster. The third ... well that is what what I am here to ask about.

I met her at a club ... she was sitting in a dark corner looking pretty good. I was at the bar waiting for friends to show up. I kept peaking over my shoulder at her ... giving little smiles ... making sure she noticed me. I was about to make an approach when another guy walked up and they were instantly getting pretty close. (I hadn't read anything about PUA at the time and didn't think of trying to break it apart.)

Then my friends came and before long I had a nice buzz from the Vodka. We were out on the dance floor and I started talking to this cute little blond. It wasn't long before I had her off the dance floor to buy her a drink. I bought her a beer and then peaked over my shoulder at the first one. She was all alone. So I took the opportunity to go over and talk ... then the dance floor ... got the number ... cha ching!

I did the 3 day rule and called her but cut the conversation short because I was driving, looking for an acting class. Plus she said she was going out of town ... I heard my friends talk about that objection and didn't want to deal with it. Then she texted me the next day ... I kept blowing her off because the out of town thing. Finally ... SHE proposed that we go out on a date. Cha Ching! (this all happened before I have read anything about PUA so I probally broke some rules. But she seemed interested in me and so I used the take-away close ... you always want something you can't have.)

So I suggested bowling because it is fun and interactive. She got really excited and suggested dinner before.

We got to the restraunt and she looked better then I remembered ... I remember thinking ... damn how did I get this chick? Dinner went well ... went bowling ... she beat me the first game but I was just worming up, then I started bowling in the mid 100's (which is really good for me). I let her win one more game and called her a shark.

I did a few things to initiate physical things ... like massaging her shoulders and tickling ... but nothing to dominate. I think this hurt me because once I went to drop her off ... she quickly gave me a hug and exited the car.

I was a little pissed at myself ... I was kinda quite in the car on the way back ... maybe giving her the impression that I wasn't into her. Either way I didn't get the kiss. DAMN!

She sent me a message latter that night saying she had a good time to which I replied I had a good time but bummed she is going out of town for 2 weeks. She has been texting and I have been giving her hints of additional interest but not really committing to anything.

This weekend we are both (coincidently) going to be in Vegas. We are supposed to meet up but I am a bit nervous about the thing. Since it has been two weeks I feel like I am starting at ground zero. In addition, I haven't quite figured out who she is going with ... guy friends ... girl friends, mixed.

I kinda screwed up because we didn't set up any plans for it. If she wants to meet with her friends then I will be going into her social setting alone ... I am not AMOG and get intimidated in large groups I don't know. If she comes to my group, she may bring a girl friend and then it turns into an interview ... I will need to impress her and the girl friend ... or pawn her off to my friend.

So should I insist on her joining my group? Should I wait to be at the club to see her or do a dinner thing before we get back into the group? Or should I just grow some balls and go and entertain her group (which I really suck at)?