Deja vu 2

This weekend she'll probably be riding him hard while you're here asking what your next move to win her back should be. Wondering if she'll send you your finger back.

It's no use.

You've been given advice here, sound advice, that you have completely ignored time and time again.

I told you just to be a man, and be congruent with your desires. Instead, you want to play this insane circuitous route of talking to her guy friends and long letters.

Makes no sense.

I now understand the frustration from other posters, and their desire to just shut this shit show down rather than step into the water.

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I just told her im leaving to Europe, she just told me she wants to say goodbye, i said i cant, she then told me she loves me, and how are we going to make this work if i leave and i dont see her before I go to fix this..

She broke up with you.... can't you just move on? Is deleting a girl from social media and blocking her not simple. Learn to move the fuck on. A chick you dated is always going to suck and fuck other dicks at some point. Accept it

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He's the one acting like the crazy bitch tbh.

I say, meet up with her, bring flowers, maybe some expensive earrings. Or a Pandora Bracelet.

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I went and saw the therapist yesterday, he was really insightful, really good. My dad doesn't think I should go so it's hard as he is the one with the money.

The therapy session consisted of myself introducing why I am here and what I hope to seek out of therapy. He pointed out that my goals should be so that I reach a place where I am comfortable with who I am and what I want in life. Where a phone call doesn’t just upset me and that I feel lost and dependent on other people. We must try and change my pattern of thoughts and this is done through taking emotional snapshots and realizing the triggers. He gave me an exercise to do and through this I will focus on my thoughts and what I think about and my reactions to them.

As for her, her and I are talking casually... Its hard, although I think I should tell her goodbye.

Glad you went.

Cool thing you're from Belgium too

This is how I see it (pretty much like everyone else here): I think you have some serious inner issues and you're in no place to even be thinking about that girl right now. So just ignore her or tell her you don't want to be talking to her.

Instead of trying to fix your relationship with this girl, you should try to fix your inner game. Why?

1. Fixing yourself instead of fixing others is completely superior for your own personal interest
2. This isn't about relationships anymore, this is about life. You need to learn to be happy and confident even when things aren't going as you planned
3. Next time you'll meet an HB9 you'll actually be able to keep her

And last but not least, I don't know what kind of friends you have but in my opinion they're not really good friends. I have always had the luck of having a really close circle of friends and they would never pull the shit on me your "friends" are pulling on you.

Hey man,

Where in Belgium are you located if I may ask, Brussels, South, North? Near coast?

I know the friends I have in Belgium are close and like brothers, in America, it was a whole new story. I see them all adding her and everything. I guess they want to fuck her... she is extremely hot and I've left... to them I think they think it's fair game...

What's weird is that, well, her and I are talking again all of a sudden and it is surprisingly going well. I am doing things in the day, played badminton, went for a drink, applied for 5 jobs today and registered with loads of recruiters in London so keeping my options open. It's just, I find this life to be depressing. Living at home with my parents, and my dad is a control freak, the house was freezing today, so he turned off the heat so the house was freezing and said 'there is no heat on in this house, the point is you get out of the house and leave', and so I got an electric radiator and plugged it in whilst I called companies and he lost his shit, pulled out the plug and bitched at me, we almost got physical with each other. He goes away for a week, then comes back and says if I am still in bed after 9 next week he will throw me out the house... I don't get it, I'm every day trying to find a job.

The girl, she told me that a lot of the baseball guys are trying to hit her up, kind of made me jealous. However, she did tell me that she feels closer to me and wants to plan a trip over summer to see me... maybe she is fucking with me I don't know. It's hard to judge.

Just feeling down and lost to be honest, miss the college days already.

Seeing therapist again this tuesday, my dad says he wants me not to go anymore and thinks I dont need it, but i think i do?

Sounds like an unhealthy dynamic with your dad.

Focus on surrounding yourself with empowering people, finding healthy role models, and becoming your own person by getting out of the house and established instead of being under the suffocating weight of your father.

OP its maybe a bit late for my response but here it is
This girl is messing with you be it voluntarily or not , she is using many of Robert Green's laws of seduction on you and one of which is cold and warm behaviors .
Tbh, i think this is a toxic relationship the best thing you can do is get other girls in your life , and forget about her period!
She basically loves the drama of the situation with you , its a turn on for her emotions just like soap opera and i bet she looves those kind of movies (ask her ) . She wants you as a fuck buddy and she views you as high value and more like a lover than a provider , i think you should treat her like that despite being a hard choice . She loves being around high value lover type guys in her age , and that's her blueprint for now .
You should stop contacting her and responding to her ( it will only get uglier the more you fall for her traps and frame you will be increasingly confused or even hysteric about her and view her as a ONITIS ) , let her do the chasing by contributing only 20% of the time and be assertive by saying what you actually want ( you can say that you want a relationship and that's dangerous considering she is not into that anymore , or you can say to her that you like being around her and enjoying sex with her and that's it , or lastly you can simply shut up and keep banging her )

I suggest using pictures of you both on social media to gain social proof and thus lots of girls, the guy "that you are" hitting the hottest girl on campus will get massive value and eventually more quality girls. You can also use the jealousy card it might wok