Hey Guys I have been going on dates with attractive girls for the past few months and seem to running into the same issue with every girl. Hopefully you can offer some insight and i appreciate it!

What happens on a general basis is I meet the girl at my restaurant we chat flirt and have good time. Then I bounce her to a local bar/nightclub, we dance flirt drink and chat a bit there too. Throughout the night I usually escalate to the point where we hold hands dance and make out for a long time. but when it comes to taking her home i seem to run into a major block with where they refuse to come to my place.

For example last night I met a cute Russian blonde chick, we have been talking for a few weeks on SPAM and met up once before and i was using lots of push pull on her so she was really adamant on meeting up. she came with her friend we had dinner and bounced to a club. in the taxi i was holding her hand and she was complying so I tried to make out and she turned her head the first time saying she didnt want to in front of her friend (who was in the front seat) later at the club we get a little tipsy and begin dancing. one thing leads to another and we disappear into the dance floor having a fantastic time and making out for what seems to be hours. In my mind I think this girl is super turned on and into me im gonna get laid lol. her friend is long gone by this point so i decide around 4 am its time to pull her home. I lead her to the coat check and we get our coats and go in the taxi. on the way to my place she starts saying its really far from her house and begins making excuses. I say lets just hang out no big deal for a bit and she looked at me skeptically and said you know we arent gonna be hanging out. we get to my apartment complex and i take her hand to lead her up but she gets out of the taxi and says shes not going up with me. I was really upset but didnt show tried to convince her to just come up for a bit and its all good just to hang but she says she "doesnt want it" translated in russian language since shes russian.

this constantly happens with girls and it really confuses me because i know for a fact this girl likes me and is attracted to me from our previous date and constant talking on SPAM. this has happened with the passed 10 girls iv been dating. I cant seem to break passed this point where escalating to the bedroom is appropriate they always seem to resist it for some reason it confuses the hell out of me because i think the girls are giving me all the signs that they like me. whats the point of me pulling home a girl if shes gonna refuse to come up to my place . thanks for the advice really appreciate it!
Aloras

The girls feel you're marriage material so they're holding out.

Here are some things that you can instantly do:

1. You can try to sarge girls in other places other than your restaurant and refrain from mentioning that you run a restaurant business. Try to wear inexpensive clothes as well as an experiment and see what happens when you go for the pull.

2. For girls that you've managed to sarge from your restaurant, bounced and escalated with, try to use the word 'BECAUSE' for the pull.

For examples:

a) Let's get inside because we need some hot coffee.

b) Let's go to my place because I need to introduce you to my room mate/ bestfriend/ dog/ cat/ mom.

c) Let's get inside because it's cold out here.

Test and tell us what happens so we can calibrate. I'm just on a studied guess based on the information you provided.

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1. First mistake here is trying to pull in front of her friends. No girl would want to look like a slut in front of their friends. ALWAYS isolate her first, then escalate.

2. You didn't prime it first. By priming i meant laying all the ground work so she feels it's natural coming back to your place.

The way I usually do is tell them to come over and we can ride together. Once they do, I invite them inside by making up some excuses (have to send an email, gotta finish a phone call, etc...) so they can sit in my place and get comfortable with it. So much easier to pull them back later on.

I also mention some excuse during the date so it will feel so right for me to invite her in later on. For example, oh my gosh, now that you mentioned it, blah blab lah, i have this awesome video I gotta show you. Then you can just say "hey im hungry, let's go back. I gotta show you that video"

If it;s her place, i usually just use the most common excuse ever, "hey can you use the bathroom real quick?" - 9 out of 10 they won't refuse. Once done, just find something in her place and start talking about it.

3. You gotta think ahead. If you pull a girl home at 4 AM, that is super late. They are sleepy and tired. I know I would be. Try 1AM or 2AM. If you do that, you have until 4 AM to keep trying to pull her back every 20-30 min if she refuses and it won't appear too desperate. At 4AM, you run out of time and you keep trying to get her back to your place every 5 min, it will reek desperation. Don't wait until last minute to pull or make out, it's just a desperate move. I once pulled a chick back to my place 30 min into our dinner. I meant our chemistry was great and sexual tension was skyrocketing, i wasn't gonna waste the whole night letting it die out.

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Playing her in the presence of her friend -even if she's not aware- is counter intuitive. If you're gonna do it, a quick kino, kiss, or escalation would help you develop a conspiracy plot between you two and is playful. You're not trying to send a message "I wanna make out with you and it's your friend who should be cool enough to accept that". You'll be ringing bells and alarms all over. You heard of ASD, right?

When it comes to bringing them back to your place. A Mystery line that worked for me last night was "Ok, we can go up to my hotel room, but only to talk, don't expect anything else" Talking having been the thing she enjoyed doing the most with me earlier that night. If you've got nothing to lose, give it a try.

Thank you guys for the feedback, I will give it a try and let you know!