I am going back to the drawing board: the mystery method. But I have realized that there is one part I am not doing and don't know how to do: build an emotional connection. All i can find is what routines work for this but I would rather learn the natural way. So what topics should i be talking about with a woman at this stage?

Talk about things that interest you. If you want an emotional connection to happen, it has to happen between TWO people, you can't just make it happen by yourself.

You can make an emotional connection happen.
You can build chemistry.

In the most simple way, you can talk about her past, present and future.

Past—

What was her school like?
What did she enjoy as a kid?
What were her parents like?
Did she go to college, university?
What were her favourite experiences?

Think of questions to discover her past AND share yours.

Present—

Mainly about her current opinions on the current culture topics.

What's new film is she excited to see, has recently seen?
What does she like doing?
What is she currently working on?

Future—

Does she have a desire?
What is her ambition?
Does she want to move cities or travel?
Where is her career heading?

Note: Future ambitions can be risky to talk about because they require really opening up and being non-judgmental, plus some girls you come across just don't have any plans. LOL. If you don't have plans, you're mediocre.

Anyway, if you talk about these topics and really listen, you'll learn about her and start to build an "emotional connection." PS. Try and remember her answers, it's important.

A further emotional connection can be built if you manage to find common ground. By that I mean, a topic which you both find interesting. If you find that topic, you can talk about your different opinions on it.

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If you're too focused on talking to build an emotional connection, then you're missing out on the most efficient and effective ways. Girls get emotionally connected/attached to their pet cats or dogs. Do cats and dogs talk? Girls get emotionally connected/attached to babies real quick especially when these babies have yet to learn to utter a single word. Girls from different parts of the world get emotionally connected/attached to Justin Bieber whom they haven't met or talked to in person yet.

Girls get emotionally connected/attached to their lovers; not because these guys talked a lot but because they did some things together that were very memorable. It isn't the words; it's the actions that triggered different emotions that girls find memorable that make them emotionally connected/attached to someone.

Once you realize this, you can build stronger emotional connections/attachments with women at the fastest time.

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thanks everyone, that has given me alot to think about.
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Calum Tingham provided some good suggestions, but don't forget to also share your half with her, so she can learn about who you are. This will help her get comfortable and open up even more to you.


Monsignor Crisanto's advice is good, too, if and when you have the opportunity to use actions to build emotional connections. If you can take her somewhere that you think is interesting/special, do it. For example, I'm a food/drink lover, and if I had just met a girl who I clicked with in a run-of-the-mill bar (and it was early enough in the night), I would offer for her to join me in a venue change to the closest restaurant/cocktail bar/etc. so I could tell her all about the place and why I enjoy it.

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By actions op, start with the small ones, like:

1. Brushing your arm against her arm. Cats and dogs are well known for brushing their bodies against their masters. They're also notorious for keeping close proximity when their masters are around. So, get close. Brush parts of your body against hers and be genuinely happy to see her. Imagine that Justin Bieber look. Also, keep eye contact like dogs do.

2. Asking the girl to do things for you. Sure, independence in a masculine man is very attractive but girls are nurturers by nature. So ask for help to make the girl feel important. Something like, "Which probiotics would you recommend? It's my first time to try this and I'm not sure if there will be bad side effects." Or, "Babe, get some of those for me. My hands are full." When a girl helps you, say "Thank you." Onwards, SHUT UP and let the girl talk.

3. Covertly playing with the girl's nipples. When a girl likes you, she will press her breast on your arm or elbow. Get the hint. Subtly and covertly rub your elbow or arm on her breast where her nipple would be. This will build massive comfort with the girl.

4. Acting like a baby. Limit your actions to these though:

a) Holding her hand or fingers while looking straight into her eyes.

b) Sucking her nipples in the privacy of your apartment.

All of those small actions are extremely memorable to girls. Work on the small ones first. These small actions are the most important things when it comes to building emotional connections/attachments. Touch or physical contact is the primary ingredient of emotional connection. Vibe comes in at second. Talking belongs to the bottom rung of the emotional attachment ladder.

Only psychiatrists and psychologists are willing to hear you talk endlessly especially when they're charging you $100 per hour just to hear you talking. They rarely get emotionally attached to their patients. Girls are no different. Pay them $100 per hour and you have a captive audience. However, they are not going to be emotionally attached to you even if you talked for 1,000 hours without the corresponding action from your end like holding their hands.

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2) Have a conversation

3) Escalate

While high levels of confidence, and self worth its really as simple as that. Get the inner game sorted out and then TALK and ESCALATE.

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On the physical part you/i got some great advice here.

On the talking part, get her to talk about private and emotional things that matter a lot to her (and when she gets emotional start kino); show understanding of her world and become a part of it. Get her to open up emotionally by sharing experiences yourself.

The key for me from becoming an armchair psychologist or friend and a lover, is when you start the kino after the connection. Get her emotional and in a sharing mood and start sexualizing and she'll feel in love, do not start the kino and she'll view you as smart and sweet.