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Stop thinking "game" and start to think making yourself more attractive. If you're an attractive guy, girls will literally fall into your lap. What you do with them from there is "game."
The gym is a great place to start. There's girls who want to sleep with me just because I have big muscles. Before people start arguing... does that turn some girls off? Sure. But I've got plenty of options without those girls.
You can do a lot to change your physical appearance. Things like hair style and accessories can totally change you. If you don't like the shape of your face, grow a beard. Go see a Professional STYLIST for a hair cut. Not Joe the barber who uses his #2 blade on you or the new girl who just started at great clips.
As you work out more, your clothes are going to start to fit you better. And as your body looks better and better, you'll want to wear a bit tighter clothes. Not Jersey Shore douche bag tight. Just tight enough so a girl can tell you've got a better body than most guys. I will also note, being jacked and shredded alone will not get you laid. But it definitely fucking helps. Show it off as much as you can without lookin like a tool.
Get some new hobbies. You can make up for any ugliness by being interesting. I'd be lying to you if I told you a guy who plays guitar isn't sexy as fuck to most women. It's pretty easy to learn and it'll help you with a lot of other things. I get "weird" if I don't play my guitar for a few days. I feel people much better.
I don't know many women whos eyes don't light up and they squirm in their seat a little bit if you mention John Mayer. Keith Richards is ugly as fuck.... literally a troll. But I can promise you that he has smashed more pussy in his life than you or I could ever imagine. Doesn't have to be guitar. I just making suggestions. Do something interesting with your time. It will also help you eliminate any neediness when you actually do meet a girl. You need things in your life you love more than women. Things you can always go back to if you're alone and single. Neediness is the ugliest trait a man can carry.
When it comes to "game," honestly dude, that's mostly about not being afraid to get sexual and managing women and your dating life to make yourself happy. I can almost argue that your social skills don't mean much.... although not being awkward is just another one of those things that reall helps. Plus, if you're a cool guy, girls will want to hang out with you more than just once lol Not wasting time on girls who are just a waste of time and being aggressive with the girls who want you. A lot of guys have some deep seeded sexual issues cause of their parents or religious beliefs and what not. These are some things that you might have to work on.
Getting really good in bed helps too. That comes with practice... it's a snow ball effect. You fuck a few girls, you get better so it's more natural, you make a few girls cum so hard that they shake and scream, your confidence goes through the roof. I don't have "approach anxiety" because I don't have any "sexual anxiety." I can talk to a girl and know I can most likely fuck her better and make her cum harder than her boyfriend. They can see it in your eyes.
This "transformation from AFC to whatever" that you're trying to go through isn't as complicated as you're making it out to be. Right now, the guy you are, girls don't want to sleep with you. So, be a guy that girls want to sleep with. Hope this helps.
This answer was totally spot on and aligned with my current state of mind! It does very accurately touch my plans for personal and lifestyle change!
Those are exactly the things that I am currently focused on. I cannot really get a good hairstyle, cause my hairline is receding. However, I don't really complain and just shave it all off. Plus, I really won the genetic lottery in the muscles department. After 3 months in people start to ask me if I am on steroids, and I am not even taking protein shakes or having a diet. So I hope that being shredded + shaved head + my deep masculine voice will do the trick. I just need to commit a bit to going to the gym, cause I haven't been very consistent with it in the past.
Furthermore, my career is going very well, so I guess that could also help. I will finish my education at top 10 school very soon and will start working as a software engineer at Facebook. Once I start earning decent money, I will make huge changes when it comes to clothes and style.
In terms of hobbies and lifestyle, I completely agree as well and already have some plans after my graduation. I considered getting into music, but I think I'd prefer extreme sports more (or may be find a way to combine both). I really like the idea of wake boarding and paragliding. I will be doing those for myself, cause I always thought they're fun, but from what I've heard, women find them attractive as well. I also like reading and travelling (been to 10 countries in the last year) and I guess those could easily create conversation topics.
When it comes to game, I don't think I am horrible. I am able to interact with different kind of people and most of them consider me funny and intelligent. I easily build rapport and people talk nice of me. However, I have one huge problem and that is being sexual. I never end up in the friend zone, cause I have a rule of expressing my desires pretty early on, but I often get rejected and now in hindsight I think it's because I tried to kiss many women without escalating.
Being good in bed is also spot on and I realised that myself recently. I think men who know they're good in bed naturally demonstrate confidence and women are able to sense that. I have felt it myself, but I need more consistency in that regard. The last woman I've had sex with asked me if I could consider her wife material after just couple of casual fucks and stated that this was the best sex she had ever had (and she was pretty experienced). I felt like king for couple of days. However, I haven't gotten laid in the last 6 months, so my confidence in that regard is down again.
But it is amazing how you stated exactly the things that I have been thinking about during the last couple of months. The only thing that you haven't mentioned is the idea of having a crib where I can hang out with people and turn it into a place for regular social gatherings. I will soon have my own place and plan to buy a playstation and hookah, so that I can have people over easily.
Thanks for the input! I guess it was just a sign that I am going into the right direction! I am not just contemplating things in theory - I take actions and at this point everything I do is pretty much related to the aforementioned things. It's just that I am not getting results right now, so I thought I was doing something wrong, but I guess I just need to be persistent.