My ex (10 months relationship) dumped me exactly a week ago via facebook messaging. I think I fuckedup since I've tried to talk it out and was even crying a bit. All this was done online and not in person. She dumped me because I've been neglecting her and not giving her enough attention etc. Previous to this I was talking about breakups, well atleast considering it since I thought that it was the better for us two. Now that she's dumped me I've been an emotional wreck ever since but I've sticked to the no contact rule. I want her back. I realised it after we're done that I absouletly love her. Do you guys have any tips? we're supposed to meet on march the 17th.

Walk away. And read the sticky about wanting your ex back.

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I've made up my mind. When I meet her I want to ask her if she's 100% sure and has thought good about this. After her answer I'm answering that I too agree or should meet new people. And could you elaborate on the walking away part? I don't quite understand what you mean.

I mean accept the breakup and start moving on.

She's 100% sure, trust me, because a woman will break up with you in her mind months before she does it in person.

You only want to meet her to cling on some hope that things turn around and you get back together. That's a position of weakness that will bring weakness. If you want to grow as a person don't meet her at all. Don't talk to her at all. Accept you're no longer together and move your focus towards self-improvement.

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I'll take that advice but even then I still want to meet up since how she broke up was gut wrenching. she broke up via a morning text out of the sudden which really hurt me that day. I think I still should meet up and try to bring closure but then again this is a first for me so I really don't know what I should do. And if I do decide I don't wanna come, should I text her or just keep sticking to the no contact rule till she contacts me.

And that's exactly why you shouldn't meet her. If someone ends a relationship with me via text, they don't deserve a second more of my time. So no, I won't be meeting nor interacting with them in any other way.

Bring closure for what? You want to know why she went that low? Who cares? You spent 10 months together and the best she could do was a text?

And now you wanna go the extra mile to meet with her in spite of that.
You need to consider your self respect here.

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Closure is something we say we need as an excuse to hold on.

That stings.

You must've been a real asshole, lol.
You're lucky, actually. She dumped you for being cold. This is one of the rare instances where you can get your ex back if you show vulnerability and open emotionally.

Meet her on the 17th and spill your guts without being overly-emotional or crying.

Tell her she's "so fucking important to you", and that you took her for granted. Whisper it in her ear with your hand flat on her back, but firm.

Date other women in the meantime.

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That's a great way of wording it.

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wait this is very confusing. People here told me not to meet up and you're telling me to meetup.
I don't get it anymore.

What the fuck kind of advice is this? Jesus Christ.

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Beyond emotional reasons, why do you want her back?

To me, "neglected" and "not enough attention" = a lack of connection

She has a strong need for connection that wasn't being met. Question is are you wanting or willing to meet that need, or doing so out of an obligation energy? If its the later, you're doing yourself (or her) no favors by continuing on.

I'm willing to meet that requirement to get back together again. But I don't know what I have to do to reach that. I'm willing to change etc.

lately I have seen her alot with another guy on a date etc. Friends even telling me that she probably likes him and he likes her. My ex told me that he told her that he likes her (out of the sudden). I just don't know what to do. If she's happy with him then I think it's better to move on.

It's the kind that men who actually get hot women give.

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Well, that changes my advice a bit. She was probably seeing him when she dumped you over FB.

It's not confusing.

Your gf dumped you, probably while she was seeing another guy.

If you still want to have sex with her, meet up on the 17th and escalate. If you don't, then move on. Either way, date other women.

She is dating other men.


Treat her as FWB only if you still want her in your life.

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