I made a post awhile back about girls and assholes, but id like to dive back into it a little.i met this chick, had no feelings towards her, and she was fucking crazy over me.i wasnt really mean towards her but i wasnt very affectionate either.i almost never texted her back.never considered anything she wanted to do, and everything always had to be my way.i took her on one legitimate date and every other time i saw her, i had sex with her and then left.while i never talked down to her, i was still a bit of a prick, and she LOVED it.she had incredibly high emotional investment in every single interaction between us.

Flash forward, i left her because i had to leave town for while and as i said, i didnt really like her.she became really depressed for a long time.well, 2 years went by and we linked back up.things felt different.i had grown up alot and she was still into me so i decided to actually give it a chance this time and now im crazy about her.i never realized it before but we connect on so many levels.i can talk to this girl about anything and she understands me.shes literally my best friend and im dedicated to doing right by her his time around.

Things are going pretty good between us right now, we have good communication and amazing sex.however the other day she was talking about how her girlfriend was crying over her piece of shit drug addicted boyfriend and it got me to thinking....her girlfriend was sooo emotionally invested in a dude who gives no fucks bout her.and i kinda want that back.i mean, i dont WANT to treat her badly or anything.but theres no denying the fact that, even though i can tell she loves me and she rarely ever tries to shit test me, it doesnt feel like shes hanging onto my every word like she used to.

Now that i care about her, its sooooo hard to play it cool and hold back my affection and im not even sure if thats what i should do.does treating a girl like that ever work in the long run? Because it seems like those couples stay together forever.i dont want to lose her and i really want that investment, that feeling of her almost worshipping the ground i walk on, back. What should i do?

Remember girls love what they can't have. In the past, you resisted and she chased. Now you love her and want to chase after her. With that sort of frame the relationship won't work out.. She should be the one chasing after you. To do this do a lot of compliance testing such as getting her to rub your back, buying you something that you really want and etc. Then you should reward her for it to make her think she's chasing after you and the reward could be a kiss, or a could be a line to make her think she's winning you over like "Whenever I tell you to do something you do it and you bought me my favourite perfume as well". The idea is to make her thinking shes winning you over. Another way to make her chase is good sex or spending a lot of time together where she is doing most of the talking. The more she invests, the more it would be hard for her to leave you.

Good luck

s not like shes resisting me or anything, things are going well i just worry that it could wear off over time.and the idea of putting up a front abd acting a ertain way all the time seems impossible.which means only way to keep her would be to actually STOP caring about her.its kind of a fucked up situation.

If you go watch a great movie and worry all along about the next scene being the last, you could just save yourself $10 and two hours and not go to the cinema. Just enjoy the moment without worrying about the end, and if it comes to an end accept it and move on.

About being worshiped: that feels great, I hear you, but do you really want a partner who's gonna feel that very anxiety of fear of loss you're experiencing right now? A healthy relationship is built on equality, "I want you to have what I have," and that includes peace of mind.

Things are going well. Relax, enjoy.

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Being "sooooo" emotionally invested is not a good thing. Not to even mention being so in a drug addict.

I don't understand why you guys would want that. Those are red flags. It's perfectly fine to be in love with someone but when they don't give a fuck about you, it's not love, it's desperation.

And if you really feel the need to be worshiped, you have some issues of your own.

The only successful relationship is that in which there is balance in each side's life.

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