Most of us reaches at least once to point that you give much more emotionally investment than your girlfriend and probably felt like you were losing the balance between you two. If i give example, if you are the one call much more or texting, giving presents, thinking her most the time etc. My question is, when you act like an afc how to reverse it without losing her?

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Umm... Stop over texting, calling and buying shit, and stop thinking about her so much.

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Stop giving presents. Save that for birthday or holidays.

Thinking about her is just going to happen. But learn to control what happens when you do think of her, and text/call less.

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An AFC should focus on other areas of their life. A girl becomes insignificant when other things are a priority. Not to sound like a misogynist but if a girl isn't giving back affection then she doesn't deserve your attention. Let her become a distant memory if she wants.

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Thanks for all inputs, i think i should make some withdrawal effect to my gf. Less call, less text etc. On the other side ee should not make them our first priority lie Mr.Assertive wrote which is IMO completely true but sometimes hard to balance. Right now i have a special situation which exactly puts in place and i have not muxh options. This reduces power of having options.
The worst thing is she knows that and using it against me. I ll in short amount of time st the previous position where i am strong enough to get ability to have my power back. Till then shit goes same..

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One of the big rules of relationship: invest at most as much as she is investing. If she's messaging you everyday, feel free to message everyday too; if you're too busy feel free to message less. If she's calling you cute nicknames, feel free to reciprocate; or just call her by her name.

If you're investing more than her, just rectify your actions to at most match hers.

Now to the creepy part: I hope this is just your Turkish English, but that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Nowhere in a relationship should you "make some effect" or should your partner use anything against you. If you feel like there's this kind of dynamics, tell her it's not ok, and move away if need be.

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Is there a way to get out of the situation? And it's not a withdrawal effect i am suggesting. I am suggesting you just place your misplaced focus and energy in other areas that might be lacking. Your girlfriend will come around...definitely don't stop trying to reach out. Just make sure your thoughts are focused on other productive things in the meantime and not letting your mind be 90% girlfriend and 10% your own life.

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Lol what do you mean?

Wouldn't acting AFC be the epitome of whats going to lose her? So how big of risk is a reverse of behavior going to be when you're already on the path to no longer being with her? It could only help; and even if it doesn't that outcome was the inevitable anyway.

Not to mention " Worrying about losing somebody is the fastest way to actually lose them" So this question itself is as AFC as a question can get it. When the door says "pull" and you push it, it will not open. You have to pull to get it open. Now sometimes you'll pull and find the doors lock. And that its too late. But pushing it damn sure ain't going to get it open.

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Talk less, message less, stop buying gifts and stop overthinking about her.

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Sometimes i use metaphorical words in order to impress myself, and tought some worf are misunderstood by your. In my previous message all i want to tell is if you fuck up in a relationship and wanna reverse it, how it should be. I think most of us at least one experienced that shittt feeling like stucking somewhere without exit. Thanks for all inputs i think, figure it out how ot should be. Sorry for language hope you understood. Best wishes.

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