This seems to happen a lot to me, and usually things end up badly (they just aren't interested really)...do women normally behave like this with guys they like? (I think not)

I've gone on two dates with a girl I met on bumble. Before our first date, she would text a lot, but soon as we started hanging out, she doesn't initiate any contact between dates. If I text her, she's short but still gets back to me (so I complely stopped texting her)..she still agreed to get together later this weekend though.

So, am I over thinking, or should I take this as not interested really and move on? I could care less about texting, but to me it feels like lack of interest especially since it's been such a big switch. I really don't want to waste my time or money if she's hardly into me or she's only going out because nothing else better is going on.

So if this kind of thing happens to you, do you still attempt to take her out or just move on to someone more interested or is this a game girls play? Like I said, this happens every time I go out with someone-super talkative before we go out, but then stop comms between dates.

I wish people would just be straight up if they weren't interested. I feel like I waste my time a lot on girls like this..

Be more interesting. I'm guessing your texts are boring and run of the mill.

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That's one of the problems with online. You're texting and she's interpreting what she believes is your demeanor, tonality, and making up a fantasy version of who you are. If you meet up for the date and don't act the way she's imagined then it'll be like you're not the same person you presented yourself to be during a text conversation. The way around that is less talk and more action on the date. She's already interested in you and you have no reason to not act on that early into the date. Sweep her off of her feet rather than beat on her eardrum.

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I get what you're saying, but I feel like I am being myself, and putting up a lot of action during the dates..another thing I noticed is a lot of these girls aren't asking me anything about myself on the dates and it's me constantly asking questions or having to talk, and it's like pulling teeth to keep the conversations going..still at the end of the dates, most end up kissing me and making out but then it's radio silence after but they still want to get together at a later date. They just show little effort into getting to know me really. I've noticed this rarely happens when I meet a chick in person, but happens literally every time I meet a girl online. It's like they don't want to get to know me really since most likely they are talking to so many other men or just want a free meal/nothing better going on. I'm ready to give up the online dating complely..at this point I'm just trying to figure out if I even give this girl a shot or just be done with it and end the whole online experience. It's frustrating and getting super expensive going on all these dates with lukewarm women. Fml lol

You feel like you're being yourself and I'm not doubting that. I'm saying that you may not act like the person that she envisioned you to be. The moment you start saying that you have to constantly ask questions and force conversations, that's the first clue that it's more talking and less action at that moment. The goal of a first date isn't trying to get her to know you and you know her, IMO. It's more about getting her to see you as a sexual being.

What I think may be happening to you is that these girls would make out with you closer to the beginning of the date but you spend time trying to get them to be engaged in talking and learning about each other and she ends up seeing in a less sexual way. By the time you make it to the makeout you've changed who she's envisioned and the next day she's not feeling that same attraction she did in the beginning.

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Yeah that makes sense, I guess I just suck at first dates..my usual first date would be during the evening (never go out on first dates during the daytime) to a bar for a drink. You say they would make out with me from the start? Are you saying I need to escalate more at the beginning of the date? I'm not really sure how. Do you think it's coming down to the vibe I'm giving off because I know you don't literally mean make out with them right away haha.

This never happened to me back in my college days, I feel like this is a never ending cycle I've gotten myself into in the past year or two and just not sure how to proceed and not sure why this is happening. I completely get what you're saying, just barreled how to fix it.. thanks for the help man.

I'm not saying make out at the start of the date but act like you already know her. Kiss her on the cheek when you guys first meet up and set the bar for affection. Don't ask lots of questions outside of the realm of man woman talk. She's curious about your sexual side more than she is about your job or your friend's party last week. They like hearing the types of women you're drawn to so she can try to fit that profile. She wants to hear you tell her that she has nice lips and then notice you looking at them every so often. Women like feeling that tension and when you start doing it, you'll enjoy creating that tension.

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I have no problem saying this kind of stuff but I do find it hard to compliment like that because I don't want to look desperate or creepy. Ill def have to work on that aspect, thanks for the advice.

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If this is happening with more than one person who is the common denominator in all of these issues? You right? So who do you think the problem stems with? All of the random once super talkative girls? Or..... YOU?

Sounds like you're still in the beginning stages of developing your game, character, and personality and thus you're great online where you can hide behind a wall and take time to generate a personality not congruent with your own; and you're not so great in person in which you have to consistently be yourself.

Delete Bumble for a few months and actually focus on approaching real women, in real life, which will develop your confidence and character that will be necessary on the actual dates.

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Thanks for the response Eddie, I agree the issue stems with me-I think I'm doing something wrong with women that I'm actually into because I do go on dates where I'm not feeling it, but they are..I think I'm subconsciously acting a certain way around these girls that is turning them off (only the ones I'm really into)..

I've really contemplated deleting bumble, so I think I'll take your advice on this. I try to be myself on dates, but I've always found escalation to be my weak areas especially on a first date when I'm not sure where I stand.. I have a lot to work on, I'll take your advice and make it a point to approach more IRL and get off those sites. My game needs work. Thanks man.