Here are the three biggest signs you are about to FUCK UP.

1. You start thinking “I don’t want to play games with this chick. I like her. Why can’t I just let her know.”
2. You think “This girl is different, I don’t have to play games with her.”
3. You think “She definitely likes me. We’re past the point I need to play games.”

The minute any of those thoughts creep into your mind, re-read this post. And DO NOT convince yourself that she is different.

SHE IS NOT DIFFERENT.

Here are the three biggest signs you are about to FUCK UP.

1. You start thinking “I don’t want to play games with this chick. I like her. Why can’t I just let her know.”
2. You think “This girl is different, I don’t have to play games with her.”
3. You think “She definitely likes me. We’re past the point I need to play games.”

The minute any of those thoughts creep into your mind, re-read this post. And DO NOT convince yourself that she is different.

SHE IS NOT DIFFERENT.

Haha. SO true.

I actually told that to a girl, because if thought she felt the same and we were past that. Told her: i´m done playing games, i really like you very much.
She agreed and said she doesn't´t like games either, and that she was glad i told her.

3 days later she dumped me.

Man, I was about to tell my new girl (almost a month in) how I think she's different from other girls and hit her with the exclusive talk, but I read this thread and realized I can't do that shit yet. That said when can a guy just be real with a girl and not have to play games anymore?

You 2 moved super fast, doing couple things and being way too invested too quickly. Your needy actions spring from not taking it slow, so any change is going to freak you out. For eg, this happens alot. Guy meets girl and they move too quickly. Talk everyday. See each other all the time. Start planning trips and introducing to family early in. Throwing the word "love" out. Things are "great." One day, chick thinks to herself, "wow, things are moving quickly." She gets scared, realizes she doesnt really know you and you her. "How can he act like this so soon?" Turns her off. Makes her second guess whether the "connection" is real. She decides she's going to pull back. Maybe not text as much. Guy, who is used to speaking everyday, realizes she didnt text good morning today. He gets needy and overtexts, searching for the affection that was there. Girl gets more turned off and says "you didnt give me space today, I was ok, but it was this thing you did today." NO. The WHOLE situation is NEEDY. Not just today. It's just that at some point, she realized you were needy. And it probably was before you texted her last night.

I say this, because you're thinking it was just one mistake. No, you made several mistakes, this was just the one she chose to pull back. When after 2 weeks of sex and 4 months of dating, you're planning the future with a chick, she's going to come out of the trance and realize "he likes me way too much." Last night was just another sign of that. If she texts you tomorrow, youre thinking "ok now things can go back to the everyday talking/lets pick out our kids names" thing. THAT's the problem. The only way this COULD work out for you, is if you realize both of you over invested, and you both need to step back. If youre thinking "wow, I shouldnt be planning trips with a chick so soon" Good. If you're thinking "wow, I wish she came back so we can go on that trip" BAD. YOU have to do as she did and realize things are at an unrealistic/crazy place. YOU have to realize this girl is not your wife. If you continue thinking that things are great/healthy and this fuckup was the only thing to fix, then youve already lost.

She was "scared" from you calling, because she already wanted space. A chick who hasnt realized things are moving too fast, wouldve continued to text you even when she's out because she's still in puppy dog love mode. And she's right, you too should step back. The issue is, you shouldve realized it first. Now, you're in the worse position.

If you tell her to soon, the chasing for her part stop. She knows she has you.

I actually told that to a girl, because if thought she felt the same and we were past that. Told her: i´m done playing games, i really like you very much.
She agreed and said she doesn't´t like games either, and that she was glad i told her.

3 days later she dumped me.

This is the issue; a girl isnt supposed to "have" you. Telling someone you're in love with them, telling someone you like them, should not communicate to them that they have you, or that they dont need to work for you. If your mindset comes from this place where you a girl "has" you, ie she can stop chasing and thats fine, that's the problem, not what you say. For eg, if you interview for a job, and the manager calls you back and says "Sometimes1, you did great on the interview...everyone loves you at the company and we want you to join the team immediately!"....if this is what the manager tells you, does this mean you dont have to work to keep the job? Does this mean you can come to work late, not work well, dress poorly at work and NOT lose the job? No. It just means right now, they're impressed and they'll see how you work out.

This is a mindset you need to get out of your head; have more self respect and standards for yourself. Liking someone, or "loving" someone, or seeing potential in someone shouldnt have finality to it. In the moment you like them, that is all. It doesnt mean you arent screening them. It doesnt mean you wont walk away. It doesnt mean you put their happiness above your own. You however, think the opposite way, which is the problem. This chick couldve done anything, and you wouldve stayed. Even right now, you are trying to see this chick again. It doesnt matter she dumped you twice for another guy. Doesnt matter she ignored you for months. Do you really think that the words are the reason she knew she had you?

Never let a girl "have" you. If you have standards for what you want and you stick to them, what you say wont matter.
You didnt want to play games. She did. A guy with standards would have this happen,ie she dumps him and think "Glad she left, I dont play games and obviously she wanted games. Time to find a chick who doesnt want to play games." A guy without standards thinks "Fuk, I shouldve continued playing the games I didnt want to play to KEEP her. I'd be miserable, but at least I'd have HER."

Being mysterious is a powerful thing. My point is, its better to do what you want to, and not be afraid to walk, than to not do what you want and be afraid to walk. The moment you start accepting less than you want, youve "lost" the chick.