It's profound stuff alright. I hope you're still young as some guys who discover what hypergamy is at a later time in life get hit really hard by it and go through an anger then depressive phase. It's called "swallowing the redpill" and it's a growing community.

Nope I'm 44 and a late comer to all this. I started a thread which explains where I'm at:

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I'm not depressed or angry just fascinated/excited to learn more and put this knowledge into practice. I'm a quick learner and just need some guidance, which is something I've never had.

Lol. That hypergamy shit is just to take advantage of men during their weakest points, not to support them.

Look, you fucked up. As RC said ( a man), if you had spoken about his business he'd be mad as well. Now, this chick is highly immature at the point if she is playing games at work due to a fuck up. Its one thing for her not to like you, but at the point this is her playing games. Likewise, a chick who you just known, never dated never even fucked, should not have you at fucking 44, so emotionally dependent on her actions. You shouldnt be heartbroken to this point over some chick not liking you. You're forty fucking 4. Both of yall, are childish in the way you conduct yourselves, and a breakup after 10 years is not a reason to be broken by a chick at work. Your breakup has nothing to do with telling someone's business to your boss, so dont expect anyone to forgive you because you were "at your weakest point." It aint complicated; you did a stupid action, someone got mad because of it. Both parties are immature, so its dragging out longer than it should have. Now, you're trying to explain her actions by going down this hypergamy hole. Its not that no one has sympathy for a sad man; no one has sympathy when someone blabs a secret. Look at what you did, realize how stupid it was, instead of wondering why someone doesnt have sympathy.

Yeah, I fucked up and I've moved on. The fact is that posting here has made my mind A LOT clearer. I've been in relationships all my life with girls that haven't pulled this shit, mainly because I've had the upper hand. I've always avoided girls that (I perceived) to be above me either in looks or status, but this hasn't made me happy. So this is why I'm learning how women tick and there's a ton of stuff I'm only just finding out about. This girl at work has in fact been a blessing as it's sent me on this journey of discovery.

And I don't know about hypergamy per se, but it sure makes sense that women do not want to see weakness in a man. Neediness and weakness are the same thing so it all stacks up.

And by the way, the blabbing thing might sound worse than it is. We're a small team and our boss is known for being a good guy that likes taking people for coffee or drinks and offering to help in any way he can. There was no danger of getting in trouble it was just an offer of a helping hand, a friend to listen etc.. So yeah I still shouldn't have said anything, but to react like I'm some sort of axe-murderer rapist has gone way beyond my comprehension, which is why there's a lot more to it than just that.

The texting rampage you went on that night freaked her out.

Sucks, but it's something you learn from.

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