Move on.

Stop further dragging your sense of self through the mud by toiling with this idiot.

Sooo. I haven't heard from her since regarding meeting. Its been 2 weeks and i told her just contact me when you know a day.
So it´s clearly this was just a test or something.. I knew that, because the girl can afford a new iPhone screen herself.

On the positive note, i haven't contacted her at all. Maybe she wanted to see if i did that?

Anyway. Yeah, i know i maybe have " no self-respect", but to also test her back and see what see really wants.
My goal is to just fuck her.

I plan to msg her on saturday around 11 pm - 00 am with " Hi, out tonight? " And see where it goes.
I feel like i have nothing to lose, worst thing that can happen is that she says No or doesn't want to meet and come up with a lame excuse.

Or should i build more rapport before i do that? Any tips for the msg i should send? I feel like Hi, out tonight around 11 pm is a friendly msg just wanting to meet, not a typical booty call msg sent 03 am.

It's still a booty call. Just be honest with yourself.

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Hahah, i know. I really like your responses.

But how do i msg without it sounding like a booty call? Or Maybe its a good thing?

That's a very good thing.

When you lose your fear of outcome, you become less needy and emotional, and this has the effect of more girls chasing you.

Before my current relationship, I'd straight up tell girls on a date (while grinning), maybe 15 minutes in, "
Let's head back to my place. But to be honest, I'm going to make a move right away". Some of the girls were down, others were like "Maybe next time.". I didn''t contact those girls, but eventually, most of them did hit me up for that Netflix and chill weeks down the road. But by then I'd moved on to someone better.

Text her at 7pm, "hey, I'm up for Netflix and drinks tonight, my place."

It's better to go for what you want clearly, than to be a tip-toe nice guy.

If she says no, don't contact her again. Move on to the next girl.

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Thanks, i will do that. Going out tomorrow and she always has plans in the weekends so am just asking if shes out.
Lol, i will have to sleep on it. This is just what she wants me to do, feed her ego, 99% sure. 1% poss that she didnt come because my story have had many pictures of my new "gf", and it's clearly that am dating someone. And that she Maybe thought i was over her, so coming over would be weird.
Yeye. Only one way to find out.

Sooo, i actually had to do nothing.

Out of the blue she sent me a snap comment regarding my story on snapchat. ( I did not send her a snap)
Was going to a party and had some funny clothes on.

Her: Hahahaha, you are sooo cute!!! ( Around 7:30 pm, so not a drunk msg)

Pretty random. Anyway i responded with:

Me: Haha, out tonight?
Her: Nooo, not tonight. Work early tomorrow.
Me: Ah, i see
Me: Would be nice to see you ( <-- Little needy? But wanted to show interest)
Her: I agreee! What about meeting next week?
Me: Yeaah, we can do that

Didn´t want to set a day late on a saturday, so didnt ask what day was best for her.
I will msg her on tuesday i think and make a plan.

I think that was pretty good.

Yep, self respect is gone.OP it should never be this hard to move on from a chick. If she was out of your league then, she still is. And your time would be better spent increasing your options, than trying to get a meeting or sex, or a relationship with a girl who you feel beneath.

I´m not trying to get in a relationship with her, and i agree with you. I know you are very experienced with this, so i appreciate your responses her.

Maybe she finally understand that money is not everything.. I don´t know, but it must be a reason why she uses the iPhone screen as a fake excuse to contact me and wants to meet after 5 months.
No reason msg me on snaps etc if she just want her screen fixed.

I was so hurt after being dumped, but after this msg from her i feel more over her. Its like now i know she misses me a little. Thats what i wanted!

Maybe she wants to be with you. Maybe she was so in love with you she broke it off because she was scared. Or maybe she is bored, the guy she was fucking started fucking someone else, so she's trying to come back. Or maybe she's bored and looking for attention. Maybe she meets you next week and you 2 rekindle and marry and you have this hot rich girl for the rest of your life.

Those are options, and you're way too dependent on hoping she likes you. You havent moved on, you regressed after the "break up."You shouldnt care what she does, and you doing so now, being glad she texted you and all that, just means you care too much. You shouldnt care whether she misses you, wants to fuck you, hates you, was cheating on you...You shouldnt care. It was over. YOU SHOULDNT CARE HOW SHE FEELS ABOUT YOU...YOU SHOULD CARE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOU. And you dont have confidence, you dont value yourself...so now, you may be at a fork. Continue down this road, get a date and hopefully spend 5 months with her where you care about her opinion more than your own. Or, improve yourself, get options better than her, and have standards. She's the prize here, and you can spend time prizing her and trying to get her back, or you can put in the work on yourself and feel like you're the prize.

Thanks. I really try to work on what I feel. Thats what am trying to do also. I have been progressing and made new friends. Maybe thats what she have seen on snapchat.
I can never be in a relationship with her, she is not stable. But the sex is good and she is fun to be with, so the goal is the have her as as a FB.
Im dating my ex again ( 3 months now, we have been together 5 years earlier) it has been great, actually looking to buy a house together now. She is stable and wife material.

Sounds fucked up right? But if i can have this chick as FB it would be great. I have to tell her when she comes over that am dating another girl( Only if we have sex) , and that she can't tell anyone that we see each other. I dont think that will be a problem. Hope not, because she and my ex hate each other.

Well see what happens! Interesting to see if she comes over just to talk and hang or if its for sex. I know its stupid of me meeting her, but i just have to do it. If she really wants to date again, i will have to say no.
Anyone else been in the same position with a girl wanting to meet after many months? What did she want?

Your ex is your consolation prize and you're far from over this chick. Insecure people often get 'insurance' (e.g. an ex, another girl they're secretly talking to on Tinder, pof etc) in case their current option goes belly-up. Your focus is still with her and how your life may appeal to her now the tough guy "I will have to say no" if she asks you out is as flimsy as a house of cards on sand. Delusional.

Typically I'd say you have self respect to lose. Dignity. Time. And mental sanity.
But you don't care about any of that.

You're a mess OP. And this will end badly for you.

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Haha, will i didnt have to contact her because she msged me.

I actually think i played this good by having small contact from time to time if my goal was to hook up with her again. I have had many flings before that i stopped contacting after they ended, never heard from them again.
This time figured why not try to stay in contact even if she dumped me and see what happens.
Yeah, i Maybe lost all my self respect but i may be getting sex out of it instead of nothing.

You could have gotten growth. Strength. A foundation for standards. And a lesson learned.

Sex is nothing. Because when the next girl comes along and treats you the same way, you'll be in the exact same spot. Best case scenario that's called stagnation. Worst case, regression.

And by no means progression.

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