So its been 11 months since I was last in a relationship, me and my girl broke up, And it left me broken in pieces. She changed me, made me into a better person than anyone I've dated. When she left me I lost all self confidence, I don't even remember the feeling, I am too lazy to function anymore let alone try again.
I am stuck but I don't want to be. So here I am. I registered to this forum.


Every time I see a beautiful girl, I just come up with excuses why it wont work out, I think of a million reasons why I should not approach her. I try to walk up to a girl and somehow I say the lamest things.
I know I am a fun guy but when I try to talk to someone, the words I want to say don't seem to be the ones coming out of my mouth.

Since the break up, all I got was A blow job and it was from a 3

I'm not new in this dating, going out. Before it was a simple, I just charm the girl then ask her if she wants to drink at my place, Before I knew it we were naked and shes on top.
But when my ex left me, I just malfunctioned and I don't know how to fix myself.

So basically what I want to happen is just, snap and change my whole personality.
to get rid of this me that is desperately clinging to the past.

I'm desperate here, can anyone give me any good advice's, even better if its a months plan. or step by step things that I need to do to just snap out of it.

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And somehow summon the guts to do the stupidest most impossible thing in the world. Walk up to that beautiful girl, and start talking.

It's just as easy as it used to be Bro.

Go to the bar. Find a girl. Ask if she can cook. Tell her you have a guitar at home. Ask her if she wants to see it. Bring her home. Sleep with her. Tell her it's your birthday in the morning. Enjoy your made with lust breakfast.

Get "relationship" out of your head. A relationship isn't on the schedule for you yet.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Approach, and fuck as many girls as you can until you find one that is younger, hotter, and better in bed than your ex.

You do this by improving yourself along the way. Hit the gym every other day. cut carbs. Read novels. Turn off the TV. listen to music.


In a year, you'll be much more fit, and banging more girls, and this will all snowball in a very good way until you reach abundance mentality.

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Just so you know, I had a very similar feeling years ago when something similar happened to me, with a girl I dated for over 5 years. My world was shattered and I didn't know how to pick up the pieces. I ended up in a bad relationship which turned into a bad marriage which ended up in a bad divorce.

Then I learned about PUA, attraction, and the belief that guys can get over all our insecurities and hangups and find what makes us happy when it comes to women. I worked on myself, worked on learning all this PUA stuff, then used it. As I got better and better my confidence grew, my successes with women increased, and I couldn't believe who I had become. I was the center of my world, not some women in my past. I had my fun, and eventually got the girl who I knew was right for me... An amazing woman that was everything I wanted. And because I got myself in that right place, it was clear that I was the right guy for her! And that's what this is about to me... Being that guy that, when you find that girl you want to be with, who finally deserves you, you'll have the skills, the confidence, and the attraction to not only get her, but keep her.

Then you will look back and say "That first girl... She had no idea what she gave up" and truly mean it. For me, that one who broke my heart all those years ago... Lol! I never think about her, but when I did, I'd laugh knowing what she missed out on. I know I'm an amazing guy, a one in a million catch, and my attitude and actions back this up 100%.

You need know that there are tons of better women out there. Prettier, sexier, richer, more faithful, funnier, whatever you value most. And you can have it. And it's not hard to do! You just gotta make the effort. Learn these skills, become a better man, and gain that confidence. Show those women why you're the best thing that could happen to them, and why they need to step up for your approval and attention. You'll look back and see this girl doesn't deserve you, and how you'd never put up with being treated they way she treaded you ever again.

Sound too good to be true? Trust me it's not. I'm living proof you can go through all the crap you went through and worse, and still come out the other side with everything you could ever want when it comes to women.

Attraction works. Plain and simple.

Pretty much what they said. Get a hobby, go to the gym, start being proactive. And flirt with women that you find attractive. Make it a point to go against your fears and insecurities because that's the only way you'll eliminate them.

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As desperate I am for change, I feel to lazy to do anything about it.
Do you guys know any book or a youtube video were I could just get motivated?
That something that will make me just snap.
It would really help.

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And somehow summon the guts to do the stupidest most impossible thing in the world. Walk up to that beautiful girl, and start talking.

It's not lazyness, it's fear and insecurity making lazyness a valid excuse.
There is no "snap". You will need to face it head on.

Check some of Les Brown's videos, just remember that watching video's and reading stuff is mostly just another justification of your fear and insecurities to not go out and take action.

I did my very first approach this weekend. It's was really scary but afterward I felt great!

Best of luck.

No. Motivation is bullshit, because it fades. That's the nature of it.
It's easy to do what you have to do, when you actually wanna do it. That's motivation. And that doesn't get you to succeed.
Success comes when you do what you have to do, despite that you really don't wanna do it. That's discipline.

So get a grip.

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I know my place. It's me on top of the world.

My in depth texting & dating guide.
There's no such thing as shit-tests.
How to keep a girl.

Stop masturbating and watching porn, desire will give you motivation.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Last week I approached a girl, she was hot, but a bit short.
She was talking to her friend, I summoned every bit of courage I got left in me and approached them and asked for her number,
She gave it but is a lousy texter, she doesn't reply much and that makes me think that she only gave it just to save me the humiliation in front of her friend.

After I got her number tho, as I was walking away. All I could say to my thoughts were, FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK! hahaha
I loved the rush, And I believe that's the way we should feel our whole lives.
The only problem is like I said. She doesn't reply much, most of the time she just reply's LOL, HAHA, COOL.

I guess she isn't attracted to me? I mean if you were attracted to someone you'd want to keep the conversation going even if your about to fall asleep, or at least thats how I feel.

Whats your take on this?

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And somehow summon the guts to do the stupidest most impossible thing in the world. Walk up to that beautiful girl, and start talking.

Its much less effort when you think about it, plus you get to chose
No seriously, I need a damn good advice on this,
Like what made you decide to be a pua?

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And somehow summon the guts to do the stupidest most impossible thing in the world. Walk up to that beautiful girl, and start talking.

Tell me were you started out, like what are the things you started doing, reading, changing about your game,
provide me with a syllabus.

Tell me where can I start improving on myself.

I am just so damn tired of everyday being on replay.

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And somehow summon the guts to do the stupidest most impossible thing in the world. Walk up to that beautiful girl, and start talking.

You are not flirting - being exciting. Send this to get a reaction;

"Every time I close my eyes…I see you naked…just so ya know…I like seeing you naked with my eyes open even more;)"

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Gym is a good place to start.
Read Models by Mark Manson if you want a read.
Start a business, invest in your career.

Only you know your passions, but I doubt they boil down to being a couch potato.

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I know my place. It's me on top of the world.

My in depth texting & dating guide.
There's no such thing as shit-tests.
How to keep a girl.

^^This as well

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.