It's been over a week since that day as I've been away. Only spoken to her once between then and tonight. The convo tonight was quite brief and ended with me sending a one word reply. Should I ask tonight or wait a few days?

What logic would make you believe that this girl would say no today but yes in a few days?

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[/quote]What logic would make you believe that this girl would say no today but yes in a few days?[/quote]

Wasn't what I was thinking tbh. I was thinking more towards that the convo has ended tonight it'll seem desperate? Plus it might be easier to start a convo in a few days than restart this one. But now I'm thinking I should just go for it tonight. Should I just ask straight off or talk a bit first?

What's wrong with just texting: BTW...I was thinking we should go out on Xday.

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Nothing when put like that I suppose. A bit too late time wise to message her now so will wait until tomorrow and see what happens.

Just so I can maybe learn from my mistakes, how often should I message? With her, it started off being every 2-4 days to begin with, but moved to be every day and could be going on for hours. Think this might be why the convo has gotten a bit stale. However, when we've been together, there's been plenty to talk about and I've had fun and it also seems that she's had fun. (the convo did get a little stale before we last met up)

If you're going to text/call a girl, you should do it for one reason. There has to be a need for it. If you have to think of something to say to her then that shows you that there is no need to contact her.

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Ok that makes sense. No need to message her just for the sake of it. Even if it's for a quick chat?

If she agrees to a date this weekend then, there's no point for me to contact her before then?

Why are you waiting to make your date on the weekend?

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The convenience of it due to working hours. Would be hard to find a night where we're both free during the week.

If you work 9-5's it's not really and issue.

Weekend are usually reserved for friends.

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Since you are planning so far out and on the weekend, you're setting up a potential flake. She could be thinking right now that since she already agreed to go out with you now that she's obligated to say yes. Her friends can all of a sudden come up with plans and tell her on Thursday. She can decide that she's been tired from work all week. The worst part, as the week goes by she can get less excited about it, especially since she's not even excited about texting with you during the day. I highly advise against setting up dates on the weekend or days out.

Meetups tonight or tomorrow are always the best. Less time for her to think and more time to be excited. Time restraints between getting off of work that day and having to go to work the next day tends to make it easier to create sexual tension and leads to easier escalation.

If I were you, I'd figure out how to fix your convenience issue because depending on her level of interest you right now, not contacting her may make it easier for her to cancel on you for an alternative plan.

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Weekdays are fine for me but can be difficult for her as she usually works later. She's asked to change dates for the weekend/friday before as she couldn't make it during the week.
I'll have a punt at that and see if she's available tommorrow. Will have to think of what to do though as we live in an area that doesn't really offer any exciting venues or locations unfortunately. Especially during the week as they close early!

You'll have a lot of disagreement between me and a lot of other people on this. When you meet up with a girl, the venue is less important than how you make her feel. If you depend on where you go, you're depending on the distractions around you to keep her interests. Sure, if the location can spark something emotional with her then by all means go there...but it's not as important as you think. Most of my first dates are at my house or start off at a coffee shop and the second stop is my house.

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Now that you mention that ut makes a whole lot of sense. I can completely relate to it as well as it's similar to going out with friends. You can be in the exact same venue with the exact same SPAM and have a totally different experience based on which group you're there with.

I'll come up with something and give it a shot. Thanks

She just said maybe as she's quite busy. How the hell do I respond to that?