Ok I am pissed off I do not know how to close this freaking girl. She comes over to my place while I'm cooking dinner, we have dinner together, she stays at my place until 1 am. Then she txts me a few times during the week, then on the weekend when I'm hanging with my friends, she calls me at like 10pm, and says she wants to come out so I go out to meet her, we hang out at a bar until like 2:30. And I don't get so much as a kiss close out of this. She's totally throwing me the signals, but what the hell is going on. She jumps on my bed and sniffs me and talks about pheremones. She makes me smell her wrists when she has new perfume on. What the hell? Why can't I close this? I go in for the kiss and I totally get hesitation. I'm ready to call this crap off.

First of all, if she is throwing u signals (iois) u go for the kiss. If ur unsure if u should kiss or not, the general rule of thumb is that if u think its time to kiss...its time to kiss. Use a kiss gambit if ur concerned about being shut down.

Beyond that...she goes back to your place...jumps on ur bed...and asks u to smell her? That means she wants to fuck u. U went in for the kiss and got hesitation? Does that mean she withdrew or u couldn't bring urself to do it?

If she did that and then SHE was sketchy about kissing or anything...which i find very hard to believe...then u need to freezeout and/or end the interaction. Tell her she should go. If she asks u about calling I'd say that i was not going to. If she asks why tell her ur not playing these games...goodbye. U've then shown a willingness to walk away, nonneediness, and that u won't tolerate bullshit. She'll realize that if she wants u she needs to stop the charade. If she leaves, u were wasting ur time anyways and its good u found out then.

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Thanks for the advice, you're just telling me what I already know. I mean she is totally throwin me IOIs, and then when I want to escalate she pulls back.

Maybe I'm just being a fucking pussy about it, but she's also always throwing these shit tests at me, like saying, "I'm a lady, I won't ever do that." I'm not so good with a response in those situations I guess. And then she like tells me to smell her new perfume on her neck and wrist. What the fuck, I'm done with this crap. I have a better time hanging with friends and flirting with my female friends than I do with this incessant work. Thank you for the suggestion.

When she says "I'm a lady I'll never do that like you said" Say that's good your right you are a lady and just keep going. Like mystery said about LMR just repeat what she says and keep going and then if she keeps LMRing you then freeze out. If she's hesitant on the kiss I would bite her neck. Not hard just a nibble. But it WILL turn her on. When you freeze out get off the bed turn on the lights and freeze out change the subject.

They say men are used to escalating until the girl resists make it so you excalate and resist. One step back two steps forward one step back two steps forward.

I think you need to read MM more he has all the answers.

-64dartsb