I went out with this girl, as you do. Things went well IMO, she made the first moves in a number of ways, like holding my hand, pokes, etc. It felt to me like we connected. Job done for the first date in my book. Did not have sex though

She went away for some family reasons and the conversation turned from hot to cold and barely replaying to my messages. I did not insist or double message.

She'll be back soon and i'll know where she stands, but now i am wondering, was the "connection" in my head? did something happen while she was away? Is it woman "crazyness"?

So i don't know what i'm actually asking here lol am just surprised of how badly i judged a "connection".

I'll post in this thread again as i find out what the problem was.

Did you kiss her?

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Nope

You see the problem right?

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So the connection was not as strong as i thought?

I can say that it's a problem in hindsight, but i've had dates without kissing that turned sexual later. I could have done better and more there is no doubt about it.

It's not a connection problem. It's a girl giving you green lights and you not doing anything about it problem.
Hey man, I passed exams without studying. That doesn't mean it's good practice.

Point is if she considers you wasted her time, you couldn't really blame her for it.

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I was here writing about situations in my life and examples of this and that. I don't want to put words in your mouth but it seems to me now, no matter what happened, the mistake i've made was not enough "sexualization".

It was not enough sexualization in the context in which she wanted more of it.

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LOL'd the whole thread, R.C. making it a solid black and white. (As he often does) OP still can't make gray.

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You guys love to add in these " I did all the right thing" fillers in your post so that we don't think you're the needy guy that you're trying to convince us you aren't.

I wrote this here to another poster. Perhaps you can find something useful in it.

"The is all so common..

Women can fluctuate emotionally.. They’re like the tide, they come in and they come out. And depending on their own level of emotionally stability some will do this much more than others. Where guys go wrong is that we expect them to be like us; we expect them to be all the way consistent and so we hold them to their words the way we would hold onto our friends words. The thing is.. they’re not our friends. Especially not after 2 weeks of knowing one other.

When a guy and a girl come together what guys seem to forget is that women have “game” just as much as we have “game”. A guys game instinctually is to try and pump ourselves up, we present ourselves as smarter, stronger, more skilled, talented, and experienced than we actually are, because we understand instinctually that women are attracted to a man with the potential to provide. Women on the other hand understand that a guy will like them to the extent that they mirror him and inflate his ego. So when you say ” We both felt this amazing deep connection” what you’re not understanding is that she was simply mirroring the vibe/connection that you were projecting, because if she didn’t you wouldn’t have liked as much as you do now. If a girl likes you a little bit and thinks theres some potential she can’t tell you ” slow down buddy… I only like you a little bit” while you’re projecting all of this hollywood romance on her unless she wants to 1)hurt you ego and 2) cause you to back pedal and reconsider how inspiring you truly find her.

She becomes charmed by how quickly she’s been able to make you fall in love. Its powerful and intoxicating to her. And by not playing along, she risks giving that power up. So she’ll fall into the moment, have a good time and play “house” with you, but after that moment their is still more to consider than that moment. While you’re holding onto the memories of yesterday she is considering this moment. You’re not longer there will all of the funny jokes, charm, kisses, and good looks; all that is there is that moment and whatever is around her then.

So thats what you’re missing.. When a woman says ” I love you” she is saying “i love you” to the guy you are being in that moment. If you allow her saying ” I love you” to change ANYTHING about you or ANYTHING about how you feel about her she no longer loves you. She loves the guy you were being just that moment right before she said those words; because it is that guy who inspired the words in the first place. The guy of that moment, not the new guy you became as a result of her.

This guy that posting on the forums, confused, and asking a ton of “what went wrong questions” is not the guy that she was mirroring those emotions for. You weren’t doing this during the date.. So how could you expect her to feel that now? When you acknowledge that you are not being the guy of that moment today, you’ll have the answer to why she’s not being the woman she was at that moment today. She follows you."

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R.C is right, as usual. The connection was not as strong as it needed to be for what happend.


So what happend. She went home for the hollidays and someone died during that time. That's when her messages turned to shallow and rare. Were i to have had a much stronger connection then i had, i would have known at the time, she would have told me.

Eddie Fews, i'm tring to convince you of what? lol Real life happens to real girls to you know; lol Not all life is about game mate.

You still making useless comments of the "you said it bro" lol

Are you still not getting laid lol.

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I am. Oh i'm sorry, was that a bro i;m'a gonna get him kind of thing? )

I'm doing great though. Gray and all.

Well good, say hi to your mom for me then.

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