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PostPosted: Wed Jan 04, 2017 4:58 am 
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Hello everyone, i didn't know where to look for advice, but i figured out that asking here would be the best idea because i don't want to screw up anything by taking advice from some some romantic article written by princess Isabelle.

Guys, i screwed up badly, no judgements please. In august this year i had a girlfriend, but i was also texting another girl 'as a friend', but i did not inform her that i had a girlfriend until after a month of texting with her, in the meantime she really started to like me like mad, she was crazy about me, but then, i 'dumped' her if i can call it like that, and i told her that i have a girlfriend ... she called me a liar and she started to hate me (she is really the LTR type of girl and she repeated to me 3 times a day that she loves honesty, i couldn't dissapoint her more than i did)

2 months ago i broke up with my ex, and about 3 weeks ago i contacted that girl whom i dissapointed so much. At first she was like 'how dare you even contact me, what do you want', but then she agreed to meet (first time we met), she said she will give me another 'chance', but she also says i now feel like a 'stranger' to her and that she finds it hard to get over the fact that i lied to her. I don't want to lose this girl, what do i do to re-create the strong connection we had before, and make her really really like me?

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Did you contact her because she's your only option or because she's your best option?

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Always gauge what a girl does; not what she says. If you two meet up, have a great, fun time. Look her in the eye with lust. Hold her hand until she gets very comfortable with it. Kiss her hand. If she doesn't object to you kissing her hand, go for the kiss close.

No fancy dinners. No expensive gifts. Be genuinely interested in what she says. Get the date going on a positive note. Apologize only when she asks for it. Say sorry. No long explanations. No drama from your end. If she starts any drama, hug her quietly and let her speak to her heart's content. When she's done with the monologue, softly whisper 'sorry' in her ear and then kiss her.

Your job is to give her a fun time, get physically close and give her closure on a positive note. Don't get preoccupied with your apology. Focus on giving her a fun time, getting physically close with her, and giving her a positive closure.

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Did you contact her because she's your only option or because she's your best option?
I think it's his only option.

OP, there's nothing to screw up here. Just date her and escalate at every opportunity you get. Plus, don't take her words for granted.
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she said she will give me another 'chance', but she also says i now feel like a 'stranger' to her and that she finds it hard to get over the fact that i lied to her.
Pls, I laughed at this. Girls like drama and they need it to function properly, just do your regular thing and everything will be fine.

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Are you kidding?

If you don't want to lose her so badly then why the hell didn't you get with her over your girlfriend of the time in the first place. I think you're full of it, and that you don't actually like her, that you're only trying to get with her now because your situation didn't work out. Had you and your girl still been together you wouldn't be contacting this girl and experiencing this emotions now.

Stop being weak. You just want to run to the next thing as fast as you can because you don't have anything. Stand on your own two and find a new girl. What you have to understand that a large part of the reason this girl fell for you so much is because you were texting her from an abundance mindset because you already had someone. You feel like a "stranger" because you are no longer in possession of the abundance mindset that having a girlfriend once afforded you. You now have a needy( i don't wanna lose her) mindset and so when you communicate her she cannot recognize you because that is not the guy that she once fell for.

Get over yourself and stop being scared. You'll be fine without her. You didn't need her a month ago and you don't need her now. Focusing on getting you together and expanding your options so that if you do talk to her again at least you'll be familiar.

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Did you contact her because she's your only option or because she's your best option?
She is not my only option, there are a lot of girls i can go on a date with and my messenger is bombarded from their texts, but i do not want them, i just want this one.


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Did you contact her because she's your only option or because she's your best option?
She is not my only option, there are a lot of girls i can go on a date with and my messenger is bombarded from their texts, but i do not want them, i just want this one.

Oh please.

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Are you kidding?

If you don't want to lose her so badly then why the hell didn't you get with her over your girlfriend of the time in the first place. I think you're full of it, and that you don't actually like her, that you're only trying to get with her now because your situation didn't work out. Had you and your girl still been together you wouldn't be contacting this girl and experiencing this emotions now.

Stop being weak. You just want to run to the next thing as fast as you can because you don't have anything. Stand on your own two and find a new girl. What you have to understand that a large part of the reason this girl fell for you so much is because you were texting her from an abundance mindset because you already had someone. You feel like a "stranger" because you are no longer in possession of the abundance mindset that having a girlfriend once afforded you. You now have a needy( i don't wanna lose her) mindset and so when you communicate her she cannot recognize you because that is not the guy that she once fell for.

Get over yourself and stop being scared. You'll be fine without her. You didn't need her a month ago and you don't need her now. Focusing on getting you together and expanding your options so that if you do talk to her again at least you'll be familiar.
Well, it is a bit more complicated, i wanted to break-up with my ex and get together with this girl, however, my ex's mother died unexpectedly and there was no way i could leave her when she was going through such harsh times, so the reason i dumped that girl before was because i felt guilty, so i ended all communication with her and i told her that i have a girl, and it was really a hard move to make because i wanted her but morally it was just the right thing to do at the time. I knew that once i become single i must have her.

My mindset is not that different i believe, i am a fun guy, and i know how to make a girl laugh and i am a great tease, however, the problem is that now i cannot even deliver my mindset to her because her entire mind is clouded with the fact that i kept lying to her for an entire month before that i was single, and i wasn't. It feels like she doesn't trust me, and i honestly don't know if she is attracted to me or not, it is really hard to figure it out. She wants to meet again, and she said we can go out together, but at the same time she responds to my texts with a damn Emoji, or with a single word, as if she doesn't give a sh8t about me anymore.

I don't know what to do, i know i can meet a new girl, but i want to my best with this girl, if it fails and doesn't work out, i will move on, but i don't know what to do !


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You could have broken up with your ex adap. Then she would hate you as opposed to this girl. You always have a choice, you just took the low drama choice not realizing it would still have negative consequences.

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but i do not want them, i just want this one.
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Are you kidding?

If you don't want to lose her so badly then why the hell didn't you get with her over your girlfriend of the time in the first place. I think you're full of it, and that you don't actually like her, that you're only trying to get with her now because your situation didn't work out. Had you and your girl still been together you wouldn't be contacting this girl and experiencing this emotions now.

Stop being weak. You just want to run to the next thing as fast as you can because you don't have anything. Stand on your own two and find a new girl. What you have to understand that a large part of the reason this girl fell for you so much is because you were texting her from an abundance mindset because you already had someone. You feel like a "stranger" because you are no longer in possession of the abundance mindset that having a girlfriend once afforded you. You now have a needy( i don't wanna lose her) mindset and so when you communicate her she cannot recognize you because that is not the guy that she once fell for.

Get over yourself and stop being scared. You'll be fine without her. You didn't need her a month ago and you don't need her now. Focusing on getting you together and expanding your options so that if you do talk to her again at least you'll be familiar.
Well, it is a bit more complicated, i wanted to break-up with my ex and get together with this girl, however, my ex's mother died unexpectedly and there was no way i could leave her when she was going through such harsh times, so the reason i dumped that girl before was because i felt guilty, so i ended all communication with her and i told her that i have a girl, and it was really a hard move to make because i wanted her but morally it was just the right thing to do at the time. I knew that once i become single i must have her.

My mindset is not that different i believe, i am a fun guy, and i know how to make a girl laugh and i am a great tease, however, the problem is that now i cannot even deliver my mindset to her because her entire mind is clouded with the fact that i kept lying to her for an entire month before that i was single, and i wasn't. It feels like she doesn't trust me, and i honestly don't know if she is attracted to me or not, it is really hard to figure it out. She wants to meet again, and she said we can go out together, but at the same time she responds to my texts with a damn Emoji, or with a single word, as if she doesn't give a sh8t about me anymore.

I don't know what to do, i know i can meet a new girl, but i want to my best with this girl, if it fails and doesn't work out, i will move on, but i don't know what to do !
When she meets up with you, fuck her. Her meeting up with you alone is the best nonverbal message that you can get saying she likes you. When you get this new girlfriend, you'll have your abundance mindset back. One is still better than zero. You can add 2 or 3 more to this 'one' if you're worried about your neediness and want to gain back your abundance mentality.

As CDL pointed out, many girls love drama. It makes them feel alive. Just don't be more dramatic than this girl, escalate hard and you'll be fine.

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Are you kidding?

If you don't want to lose her so badly then why the hell didn't you get with her over your girlfriend of the time in the first place. I think you're full of it, and that you don't actually like her, that you're only trying to get with her now because your situation didn't work out. Had you and your girl still been together you wouldn't be contacting this girl and experiencing this emotions now.

Stop being weak. You just want to run to the next thing as fast as you can because you don't have anything. Stand on your own two and find a new girl. What you have to understand that a large part of the reason this girl fell for you so much is because you were texting her from an abundance mindset because you already had someone. You feel like a "stranger" because you are no longer in possession of the abundance mindset that having a girlfriend once afforded you. You now have a needy( i don't wanna lose her) mindset and so when you communicate her she cannot recognize you because that is not the guy that she once fell for.

Get over yourself and stop being scared. You'll be fine without her. You didn't need her a month ago and you don't need her now. Focusing on getting you together and expanding your options so that if you do talk to her again at least you'll be familiar.
Well, it is a bit more complicated, i wanted to break-up with my ex and get together with this girl, however, my ex's mother died unexpectedly and there was no way i could leave her when she was going through such harsh times, so the reason i dumped that girl before was because i felt guilty, so i ended all communication with her and i told her that i have a girl, and it was really a hard move to make because i wanted her but morally it was just the right thing to do at the time. I knew that once i become single i must have her.

My mindset is not that different i believe, i am a fun guy, and i know how to make a girl laugh and i am a great tease, however, the problem is that now i cannot even deliver my mindset to her because her entire mind is clouded with the fact that i kept lying to her for an entire month before that i was single, and i wasn't. It feels like she doesn't trust me, and i honestly don't know if she is attracted to me or not, it is really hard to figure it out. She wants to meet again, and she said we can go out together, but at the same time she responds to my texts with a damn Emoji, or with a single word, as if she doesn't give a sh8t about me anymore.

I don't know what to do, i know i can meet a new girl, but i want to my best with this girl, if it fails and doesn't work out, i will move on, but i don't know what to do !
So heres my question..

Did you leave your old girlfriend or did she leave you?

And its not that she doesn't give a shit anymore, she's just loving the power from the fact that some guy that paid her minimal attention because he had someone is now pathetically drooling and obsessed with her. Its fun. It's an emotional validation dream for her.

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How about being honest once? Tell her that you just wanted to have her for sex and to keep your girlfriend just because you develop a habit for her. Tell her that if that is the truth.

No matter how painful it will be for her, she will appreciate it more than a soft lie. Don't make it look less harsh than it really is. Tell her exactly why you did it. Maybe she will respect that. Tell her that you are being honest.

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How about being honest once? Tell her that you just wanted to have her for sex and to keep your girlfriend just because you develop a habit for her. Tell her that if that is the truth.

No matter how painful it will be for her, she will appreciate it more than a soft lie. Don't make it look less harsh than it really is. Tell her exactly why you did it. Maybe she will respect that. Tell her that you are being honest.

...do not do this!

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Did you contact her because she's your only option or because she's your best option?
She is not my only option, there are a lot of girls i can go on a date with and my messenger is bombarded from their texts, but i do not want them, i just want this one.

Lol why? How do you know? She said you feel like a stranger yet you have to have her? You clearly don't know very much about her so how do you know you want her? She's your only option.


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