Hello Gents,

I've got a FWB girl that I've been seeing for last two months. Back when I met her I was only looking to spend time with one girl (coming off a multiple partner summer). So I made my intention clear from the beginning that I will hang out with her only if we are exclusive, she agreed. Fast forward to now, we have a great time together and I am starting to like this girl, she said she likes me too and she is not interested in meeting anyone else at this point.

We are both very active and like similar party type things, clubbing, bars, concerts etc. She has a best friend who is DTF and is looking for any D any time, which I could care less about. Few nights ago they went clubbing and both ended up at some random guys house who was hitting on the best friend. FWB called me at 4am said she was babysitting her friend. Next day in the morning I asked how the night went, she said her friend hooked up with the guy, and that FBW didn't do anything and she woke up on the couch alone, basically it doesn't sound like FBW hooked up with anyone.

A month ago this event wouldn't bother me, however it does now. So I told FWB how I felt and she was very apologetic. Now I am sort of at cross roads, the way I see it I have three options:

1- Continue with FWB thing and just enjoy physical part and detach myself from the emotional part. I sense however the longer I spend time with this girl the more into her I might be (or not, this is unknown of course).

2- I chat with her and we agree to date, this sounds like fun, however her DTF best friend is not going anywhere so I might end up in the situation above, which I am gonna have a problem with.

3- I drop this girl now, it's only been two months I would be able to walk away without much damage.

I understand it's not black and white, I listed the choices that seem logical to me, however open to any input/suggestions.

FWB's aren't exclusive.

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I got your point, we are already dating. Anyhow will continue on, lets see where future takes us.

Sounds a little too late for this doesn't it? You're here making this post in the "relationship section" because you're already emotionally involved.
You also didn't state exactly what it is that bothered you about this situation? If you can do that; it would help me in addressing your needs.

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I will say though man, birds of a feather tend to flock together. I personally wouldn't end up anywhere with friends that I wouldn't end up alone. Im have the will to say "I'm going to go home" if i've being strung into a situation that I'm not personally comfortable with. If my boy decided to go to meth lab, i wouldn't go, unless thats some place i don't mind being. Drunk or not.. I'd advise them not to go, but they have to make their own decisions at the end of the day. However, this is a FWB relationship correct? One thats exclusive? How exactly does that work? And how is that not like a normal romantic relationship?

Also, where are you expecting this to go? Are you looking at this girl like she could potentially be the mother to your future children? Or is it just of the moment, for the moment because you think she's attractive and you guys get along? If its the latter, i don't see the point in entering in a relationship in the first place.

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Not getting married anytime soon nor having kids

At this point it's mostly physical attraction with a bit of romance, I am gonna see where it's going. At the end each one of us decides what they want to do, so I won't sweat about this unless some bigger issue arises.

thanks for the input.

OP what did you want with this thread? It seems like you came for advice then got scared off by real advice

I was concerned at first, then a day passed and concerns were gone and things became clear. Sometimes it's all in our heads, and just need a bit of time.

consider the thread closed.

What exactly bothered you in the first place?

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Trust i assume, not being sure if "his" girl is loyal...

Some advice: If a girl wants to cheat on you, she will do it. Stay her best option that's all you can do my friend. Now if you don't like her spending nights at random/friend guy houses with a slutty friend tell her this and see what she says..

2 ways possible:

1. She will bitch about you not trusting her... drama.....
2. She will agree to stop sleeping at random houses with her slutty friend.

Now if i were you i would let her do her thing unless it bothers you to much, then talk to her..

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I told her, she said that she won't do that again as she wouldn't want me to do the same. Anyhow I am letting her do whatever she wants, if she happens to sleep with someone then the boundary is clear, I won't be seeing her again. So time will tell how she does