Hi, just need some advice of more experienced artists Warning: This might be a long read.
I think that I should start by saying that I have been with same girl for last 14 years. I am still with her, but I am ready for some spice in life.
To the story:
I have been working with this girl, lets call her K, for a few years. K had a boyfriend,but they have split up few months ago. I have not been interested in K while she was with someone else and I dont think she was interested in me. K has started playing games with me after she left her ex. You know it little touches,winks smiles and most importantly sex talks. Not just any sex talks,but wildest dreams talks. It is important to say that K knows about my gf and kids. She went back home for a week recently and we have swapped many many messages on fb. We were closer than ever when she came back. Day before yesterday after a night shift I have dropped her off from work and she invited me for a coffe. I have managed to kiss her and she seemed very happy about us kissing. I have tried to progress there and then, but it was " I need a shower" response. I said OK and we said bye. I went home hoping for some sleep (didn't get any btw). I have somehow foud an excuse to get out of house that afternoon so I went to see her, thinking - I'll score she had a shower. This is when it all goes south. She said that she was thinking about it and she thinks that it would be a mistake to start anything. For some reason I have been very open to her and I have told her that I am not looking for anything serious just sex. I believe that was a mistake.
I did go to see her today. She semed fine, but she would not kiss me no matter what.
What would you guys do? Just don't preach about loyalty please. I realy do want to play her games back and win.

women live attention, and she seems like someone who is the same. Now that you have kissed she might think she is already got you and the thrill is gone.

I suggest you look at your own life and try to figure out why after 14 years and a kid, you are willing to give it all up. I don't want to sound judgmental or sound preachy, but we are all looking to improve our love life and life in general, so maybe a little soul searching might help you get on your way...

You're an idiot.

If she's fresh out of a relationship, she's all over the place on an emotional level. Just keep that in mind.

Anyway, Women are turned on by what's exciting and thrilling. And a first kiss is usually the result of sexual tension having been built.
You want to keep doing that. Just because you had a moment doesn't mean the deal is sealed and you can go straight into lazy mode.

Flirt with her. Turn her on. Build her desire up until she can't help herself around you.

You made no mistake by telling her you don't want anything serious. Listen to her actions, not her words.

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Thanks for your reply. Now she has what she wanted and thrill is gone, that is exactly what I thought. I just need to figure out how to make it thrilling again.
I did have a look at my own life, but that is different story. I know i might sound and act like a idiot, but hey...

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OK, cheers.

R.C
Thank you!! I'll try my best. I'm sure that attraction is mutual, she kissed me. Right?
She is still talking to me, but all dirty talk has disappeared (I have been enjoying that)

Attraction and interest are two different things.

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That's right. I just have to figure out the way to make her interested again. I am pretty sure, that I have been friendzoned.

You don't get friendzoned, you can only friendzone yourself. That's not the issue.

The issue is you were a bit too eager and your approach was lazy after that initial kiss.

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Right, I gave her a lift to work. She started talking about a new guy and going for a date with him next week. I believe she made him up. Is she just playing some sort of girl game on me, or has she lost every bit of interest??
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Ed

Probably didn't make it up.

These things happen. Move onto the next.

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Ffs why are you giving her a ride to work with this bullshit going on?

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[quote="R.C"]Probably didn't make it up.

I think she did. She was supposed to see him yesterday, but she had a spliff with me instead. She started talking about this new friend again today so I asked her few questions.
Me:What's so special about that one?
Her:Nothing special.
Me:Where is he from? (We live abroad)
Her: It's not important.
Repeat above two lines with slight variations.

I have been thinking about it myself. I thought that freezing here out won't get me any closer.

Hey moron. Fuckin moron!

I wasn't asking in terms of how to bang het. I was asking why you are doing favors for a random girl?

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Getting her high, giving her rides to work, and no sex.

Welcome to the friendzone.

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