I have a problem.

I have too many theories and when one starts to make sense, new facts push it back into obscurity. For each new theory, the truth gets further.


Thank you for your insight in advance, I'll try to compress my issue so it doesn't get too long winded or confusing.


Sex, comfort, affection, intrigue and attraction. I create a very potent mix of these in the women I spend time with. They're connecting, they're trusting me where they would no one else, they're squirting when they never have before, they're proclaiming their fondness of me with both word and action.


Right about now you're probably thinking "he's just seeing what he wants to see via arrogance or insecurity". Well, maybe you're right, that's one of my theories too.

There are some facts that challenge that theory though. These girls share deep secrets with me that they've shared with no one else, so it's not trust. These girls squirt and cum hard over and over like they have never before, so it's not sex (maybe they're faking? But why so many and how do they all feint it well enough to fool my intuition, why do they laugh at the fact that they've no bed sheets ready because they didn't expect it?). These girls break their rules and boundaries just to invite me in, they express shock in how organically and profoundly we connect right away.

Yet 99 out of 100 of these women who are seemingly pleased (thoroughly) in most all areas of romance always end up freezing me out.


They stop talking to me usually a day after our first fuck. But within 30 minutes of us parting ways they text me to rave about how incredible our experience was and how they've never encountered anything like it.

But after that, they start to pull back and stop texting. Now I convey my interest so that it's clear I enjoyed their company, but if they don't reciprocate or just flat out ignore me; I stop texting them altogether and leave it in their park.

So I'm just not sure, this has happened with several dozen girls so the problem must be with me, right? But what really confuses the shit fuck outta me is that these girls always convey PROFOUND interest and trust in me. Plus they ALWAYS squirt or cum well.


Is it me?
Too intense?
Too ugly in spite of their testimony to the contrary?
Did things get sexual too soon? I feel like women commit more AFTER sex and men do so BEFORE sex?
Too needy, too forceful?


Is it them?
Are they afraid of this profound concoction?
Are they afraid of losing it, so they lose it on their terms?
Are they worried they don't deserve it?
Do they worry that the interest isn't mutual?

This means that you are accepting too many things as fact. You need to discard anything arbitrary and only go by what's been proven to work for you or what's been proven to work for people you trust. All other things are just arbitrary ideas that require testing.

From your examples it sounds like your freezing them out because they rave about you. How about taking charge and organizing a date night.

Thanks foxtrot, I've thought about that myself and believe I don't freeze them out but... maybe I do? I ask these girls on second dates, sometimes soon after sometimes I wait a bit, it depends on the feel of it. They decline and offer some excuse which is totally fine until it happens several times over the course of several weeks.

Are you projecting yourself as relationship material? Sounds like the girls you are sleeping with aren't really looking for anything serious. Regardless, I find that hard to believe that every girl just flat out goes cold after sex

I may be projecting? But these girls do say their goal is a relationship. Honestly that's my goal too, but I intend to hang out with a girl for X time before I'd actually date them. Until then I'll just enjoy some friends or FWBs.

I find it hard to believe too, very. As I understand it they become more invested after sex.

But I have a very potent flavor of romance tbh, I'm very engaged, I wonder if that's too much? But why do they gobble it up in the moment if it's too much? It should be an immediate turn off.

So I'm wondering now if girls (who typically [as far as I've seen] hate themselves) don't think they're good enough for me. I have my shit completely together, I'm good looking, have fun talents etc. A lot of these girls don't.

I definitely don't believe I convey that I don't think they're enough (but maybe I do). I appreciate them each in their own way, I see value in them. Hmmm, Idk.

Thanks for the food for thought NR32

How so?

Ultimately, I'd like to find a woman to be my best (intimate) friend. I have certain traits I won't compromise on; introspection, honesty, compassion, empathy, passionate about something substantive (even if I don't share it), and she needs to be unafraid to speak her mind and her feelings. Also a bad childhood is a red flag to me, not many women can put themselves back together after that sadly.

Until then, I just want to experience the character of different women, learn about them, fuck them. My goal is to leave them happier and better off than I found them, even if i don't intend to date them.

Thats like saying theres too many forms of Karate..

Or two many ways to draw a house..

Pick one and master it. Theres going to be advantages and disadvantages to every theory. Read less and live more.

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